How to approach/maintain conversation with awkward/quiet girls?

cea2014 · 2014-12-17T02:33:07+00:00

in this sense, i find them actually easier to approach. they tend not to be as formulaic as outgoing people, so no need to worry about how tos.

what makes someone a shy person? well, evidently, social control does. she cannot be shy while by her own. so, shy people are inherently deviant. theyll dig deviant conversation, action. and often eventually accordingly be ruthless in bed.

to answer your question, though: treat her as if both of you were the last of us: alone is this world; and finally at ease. she already kinda lives this life. here you are the limiting factor.

SexySmexxy · 2014-12-17T04:03:25+00:00

Hmm I've never really come across any shy girls but what I would do is.

Get their phone number/ facebook/ instagram etc as soon as possible.

Many people are far more open on the internet than they are in person so you can use it to your advantage.

Also nothing brightens up a persons day like you asking them for their number or facebook because it shows you are interested in them and want to connect with / get to know them.

Obviously when youre in the moment, meeting them for the first time or whatever just ask them questions, try to get them to talk about themselves or do a physical activity with them (shots at the bar or grab some food) to occupy the time so you aren't spending all evening trying to get them to talk.

Delightful_White · 2014-12-17T00:06:24+00:00

Sounds like you were doing everything right the first time...

spend more time with her

Lordoftheintroverts · 2014-12-17T01:59:20+00:00

Ask questions that require some deeper thought than just small talk.. quiet, introverted girls are turned on to deep, cerebral conversation.. or at least that's my experience

blondedre3000 · 2014-12-17T04:05:10+00:00

Lately I just tell them to fuck off. I want to be relaxed around someone, not to have to hand hold them through weeks or months of their own awkwardness and nervousness.

Polemicist82 · 2014-12-17T05:06:28+00:00

http://www.thoughtsfromatherapist.com/2011/08/23/immediacy-tips-therapists-immediacy/

I suggest using immediacy in a cocky-funny way. This is a counseling technique, but I am in no way advocating being her counselor. Only use this to keep you both in the moment and let her laugh/feel comfortable with you, fully accepting that sometimes she is quiet and awkward. Use it to demonstrate her being awkward doesn't dictate how confident and in the moment you are as a secure man.

v0lk · 2014-12-17T15:39:33+00:00

There are different kind of quiet girls though. I went out with one girl that was not just shy but was socially awkward. I thought this was OK since most girls are shy before they open up to you. Its really hard to hold a conversation because all they answer is yes or no like I'm a interrogator. So after awhile I just stopped talking to her for a few days and she actually came to me and asked why I stopped seeing her. She started toopen up a bit but the cconversations were really weird. She would only want to talk over text and only complained. I one day just told her not we are not meant for each other so she suggested we have sex. That was the most awkward sex I had in my life. When I climaxed she freaked out telling me to pull out even though I was wearing a condom. She than wanted to be a fuck buddy because she doesn't get dick as she told me but I told her to fuck off because that's not my style and I later learned that her parents are the same way. I got some experience at lest and will know what to do in future situations. Anyway I hope this girl you are talking about is just plain shy and will open up to you soon,just remember not to be an asshole and maybe do some recon on her thru social media to find a common ground between you.

DaygameCoach · 2014-12-17T00:13:18+00:00

How many of the threads on shy girls did you read? I know I replied to some of them. :)

Title	How to approach/maintain conversation with awkward/quiet girls?
Author	StickyAndConfused
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Date	December 16, 2014 11:22 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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