I was talking to someone earlier who was talking about how 'women want what they can't have! drives them mad' and to 'make them chase' and to 'act aloof' etc.

But then I was reading about how important it is to 'show your intentions early and clearly', and to 'be bold and unashamed in your desires' etc.

How does this work in practice? If you tell them that you want them and show interest, they know that they can 'have' you when they want, and then that takes away for 'they want what they can't have' angle, no?

It confuses me because I read this stuff, and then go out at night and have no idea how to act as one minute i'm worried about showing my intentions, and then the next minute i'm worried about 'making her chase' etc, and I think it sometimes manifests itself as someone who is just 'in the middle' and probably puts the girl off since i'm almost ticking NONE of the boxes *(not to mention completely stuck in my head!)lol