How to be disinterested

sixsidepentagon · 2014-07-05T20:11:40+00:00

So it's not really about being disinterested, it's about eliminating neediness. Expressing desire for a girl is actually one of the most fundamental turn-ons in the world, but the trick is being able to do that without being needy at the same time.

In other words, this is the fundamental paradox to all attraction; how do you express want without need? Attraction is just resolving this paradox.

I highly recommend reading "Models" by Manson as that's what the entire book is about. The short of it is: vulnerability. If you can show you can expose your vulnerabilities without fear of being hurt, then you must not be needy at all.

If you can be truly vulnerable with someone without expecting anything out of return from them, then you've achieved outcome independence and you're one more step on the way to true self-improvement.

OnLetttingGo · 2014-07-05T21:45:37+00:00

A little chase here and there, keeps interest but makes her think about you more and more. Creating patterns in your interactions and then breaking those patterns makes her think about you. Example may be texting back within an hour or two window consistently and throwing a curveball of 3-5hours, or not at all. You will consume her parts at least partially during that window. Canceling plans is a good one in moderation, makes you seem like a hotter commodity. She gets all done-up or at least anticipates seeing you, like any event being canceled that you were excited to see. Being vague on the details of cancelation can drive her even crazier, although there's a balance between being a ditching douche and a hot item. There's a million excuses that work.

Also being vague on details in stories involving (possible) females being there.

PUT HER IMAGINATION TO WORK.

Damn_ImGood · 2014-07-05T23:00:12+00:00

I wouldn't say disinterest, but more like indifference. You can take it or leave it.

When you approach you wanna subconsciously have her understand that she has simply piqued your interest, she's not yet important to you.

PowerSeductionWar · 2014-07-05T18:26:59+00:00

Freedom from outcome

sixsidepentagon · 2014-07-05T20:27:34+00:00

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PlayFair · 2014-07-06T00:04:49+00:00

FYI: disinterested and uninterested have different meanings.

 -Grammer Nazi

HitboxOfASnail · 2014-07-06T01:55:55+00:00

Its not about being disinterested in her, its about being disinterested in the outcome of what happens with her.

Title	How to be disinterested
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Date	July 5, 2014 5:45 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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