How to create a social circle from scratch?

quinnmcd · 2020-08-25T17:18:59+00:00

When I moved I just went out a lot. I was constantly at the club or mall. I made friends with my uber drivers, met people at concerts, and talked to people while exploring the city.

With the current situation of the world, it's probably best to try to meet people through social media. Twitter and Instagram have plenty of small local community that you join and interact with people. Even Facebook groups focused on your interests can help you meet new people.

It takes a lot of time to create a social circle. just like with dating people don't show their true colors until they start getting comfortable down the line. Someone you think is cool could potentially be the source of a lot of negativity and drama in your life. you have to be willing to know when to pull out and cut people off.

There's really no guide to building a GOOD social circle. it's all about you going out to meet like-minded people that will enjoy your company and show you respect.

newsknowswhy · 2020-08-25T16:54:51+00:00

Either way, this will take work. Building a quality social circle isn't fast or easy.

You could start a YouTube channel. Talk about something you're passionate about and others who are passionate about this will join and follow you and you will have your own tribe.

IRL join LinkedIn find people in your city you would like to meet or know. Be honest and email them that you would like to know them and ask them out for a coffee sometime. After that invite them all out together at the same time. Now you have a crew.

Your status and social network will be impressive to everyone. This is what I did when I moved to San Francisco and knew no one here. Now I have a impressive circle of friends and a larger network of people who I can call.

I hope this helps.

skullirang · 2020-08-25T23:52:18+00:00

Anything that is set up "for socializing" like meetup.com or mixers are complete cringe events mostly composed of low value people you wouldn't want to meet anyways. If you want to go to events you want to go to events centered around a passion, interest or self-improvement.

The key to creating a social circle is scouting for socialites. These people love socializing and maintaining contact with people. I have several friends that fit this personality type and all I have to do is to stay close with them and introduce new people to the group. They will do a lot of the maintenance for you i.e. keeping people engaged, thinking of events, being the life of the party etc.. Sometimes they introduce new people to the group. Since you are in the original circle, you will have inherent higher value than everyone introduced into the circle. You will need to make sure you create interesting events, check up on people within the social circle, and essentially make sure the social circle gives some degree of satisfaction.

Imo this is the next level of game and is extremely important as you get older. Instead of going out to hunt, go and grow it in your backyard.

beyond98 · 2020-08-25T17:41:18+00:00

Now with COVID the thing is a bit fucked. I haven't tried anything because I live in my home city and I know lots of people which I'm friends with them, but if I was you, I would try Tinder to meet new people, not only for dating. I would also start going to the gym and take group activities or search local groups about personal hobbies, it does not matter if your hobby is male-dominated as I only looking for friends

Woujo · 2020-08-25T18:34:57+00:00

1) Figure out what kind of person you are and what you like to do.

2) Go to places with people like that.

3) Find the "ringleader" of the group. Every social circle has a "leader" that organizes events, knows everybody, is always doing stuff, etc... Introduce yourself to him or her and provide them value rather than taking value.

4) Add the ringleader on social media and start going to events they organize. Keep a good relationship with the ringleader.

5) If you absolutely cannot find a "ringleader" in your chosen community, become one. It is a lot of work but it gives you a lot of power and pussy.

protespius · 2020-08-26T14:04:45+00:00

Depends what city you live in, but I have met some great friends and gotten the most dates after college from joining a casual/social sports league.

Currently they’re all closed in LA due to Covid, but when they resume I’m in. I’ve done everything from flag football to beach volleyball to kickball to cornhole.

There’s attractive girls in each one, and if not there’s always the social circle game that comes with time. Also, it keeps me active

Ulanyouknow · 2020-08-29T23:46:12+00:00

Be the one to call people. Be the one to invite people to meetings. Mix and match groups and people, do not keep your friends from school separated from your friends from the gym.

macroxela · 2020-08-25T20:31:45+00:00

Had a similar issue when I moved a few years ago. There are plenty of Meetups but the turnover rate is so large it was difficult to find anyone who went to more than a few before disappearing. Right now it might be hard due to Covid-19 but look for hobby groups you are interested in. Preferably something that gets you moving or intellectually stimulating. Dancing, hiking, running, book club or art classes. After a while you will meet a core group you will get along with. Cultivate those connections by engaging with them every time you see them no matter how small. And don't let anyone walk over your boundaries. After several months or a year you will finally have a solid social circle that satisfies you.

BoogieorBust · 2020-08-25T21:23:25+00:00

Volunteer in what interests you.

jheldt · 2020-08-25T22:55:16+00:00

I’ve found success by finding people I connect with most which is spirituality and those into alternative health and starting to make friends there are also postings on craigslist for activity partners, classes and activities. Also local Facebook groups too.

Title	How to create a social circle from scratch?
Author	UnPrestigiousPigeon
Upvotes	27
Comments	15
Date	August 25, 2020 4:45 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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