How To Develop Skills While In An LTR

TrippAdvice1 · 2012-08-10T18:23:24+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I have a girlfriend although I am a dating coach. The way I try and keep up is by going to as many social events as possible. I open up everyone and try and make as many friends as possible. The only downside is I do not flirt. But I've done enough of that in my day where I don't need much more practice. But, sometimes I'll do the playful flirting with my gf that I would do with other girls in the past. Anyway, long response short, talk to as many people as you can and learn what it takes to connect with people on a deeper level. Guys and girls. IMO this is the basis of pickup.

Mog_Melm · 2012-08-10T18:21:32+00:00

As pre-emptive thanks, here's Mozart's equivalent of a dance remix of "Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star".

Mog_Melm · 2012-08-10T22:55:16+00:00

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MolsonIce · 2012-08-11T01:05:04+00:00

So what do you guys think I can do to hone my skills without, you know, having a series of affairs?

You won't be experiencing approach anxiety in the same way that 15 year olds or single guys would. This will make it difficult for you to actually teach your kids from experience, because you won't be able to coach them through their emotions.

However, that doesn't mean you can't develop your ability to open, transition into conversation, and develop a large social circle. This should probably be your focus. If you can raise your children to be social people and teach them that having a vast number of connections is normal, then they'll grow up to be naturals.

avonv · 2012-08-11T04:23:22+00:00

lol, you have quite the interesting motivation.

the only way to talk the talk is to walk the walk at some point. not sure what advice to give because you are married. i agree with the guy who said wing for your friends and have some guys-nights-out. also, maybe watch the movie "hall pass" for an accurate depiction of what you are trying to do

Mog_Melm · 2012-08-10T21:18:50+00:00

Don't...this will kill your marriage. Be secure in yourself as a husband and father, stay away from seduction. Read Dale Carnegie how to win friends instead.

fragglemook · 2012-08-11T08:38:15+00:00

Develop skills? Either you want to fuck other women or you don't. It's best not to lie to yourself or it'll all end in tears. Prepare your children for high school by teaching them how to learn, not how to pick up chicks.

For a start, by calling what we do cheating, you are cheating yourself out of a basic primal urge to pass your genes on via as many vessels (lol) as you can.

To make it easy on yourself and just so you can't be accused of "cheating" you should discuss this with your wife.

Or...don't lie to yourself. If you want to fuck other women, it is morally sound that you do so and don't tell your wife on the basis that you both are achieving your biological imperative. It's morally sound for me, maybe not you, considering you have a three party contract with your wife and the state which could do you out of a lot of money sometime if you play it wrong.

Title	How To Develop Skills While In An LTR
Author	Mog_Melm
Upvotes	9
Comments	26
Date	August 10, 2012 6:15 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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