How to flirt

Rhino3750ss · 2025-09-08T20:54:21+00:00

You create sexual tension.

Sexual tension develops when there exists an obstacle that stops two people that are attracted to each other from having sex. In a farmers daughter scenario, the obstacle is the dad and his shotgun.

With this knowledge, you can manufacture the obstacles at will to generate the tension. The obstacles can be physical, mental, emotional, and even theoretical.

If the girl is already on the date with you, it is very likely you were initially attracted to each other, so that requirement is already met, now u just need to make the obstacles. The options are limitless, a detached temperament in itself can be an obstacle, you telling her to behave herself if she initiates physical touch is an obstacle, calling her a bad girl or accusing her of having a dirty mind if she uses innuendo is an obstacle.

This is base knowledge, you want to be creative with the infinite possibilities to create obstacles to develop your own unique game and not need to rely on the words and behaviors of others.

matutewittg · 2025-09-08T20:42:04+00:00

Be playful, show her contradictions, challenge her, touch her act like a kid but with intent

NoAcanthocephala4827 · 2025-09-09T04:32:59+00:00

Healthy level of eye contact, ask more questions bout her instead of talking about urself, random compliments mixed in, like where’d u get that bracelet or something follow it up with ur skin is really smooth/soft idk just random stupid compliments it works for me

Multi_Trillionaire · 2025-09-09T12:06:36+00:00

Depends on what stage you're at. Flirting on a date is different to escalating to sex.

What flirting looks like on a date is playful banter and teasing and making jokes. One trick I like to do is pretend to check myself out in a mirror and exaggeratingly mogging.

Make playful innuendos, but don't make it explicit or crude.

Like this:

Her: [grabs an orange] That's huge. You: [Glance over to the orange] Oh, thought you were talking about something else. (Acting innocent)

Not this:

Her: [grabs an orange] That's huge. You: [Glance over to the orange] I know something else that's huge 😏

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-09-09T13:11:59+00:00

It happens by inviting women to feel your sexual desire without pressuring them to recriprocate.

Your job when you approach is to express what you feel yourself for real in an emotionally-driven way, not to try to get sex or a relationship or reciprocation, or anything, bur rather to invite her to feel what you are feeling so that she submerges herself into the emotion and you both just allow each other to sit with the emotion.

And what is the emotion that you express? The way she makes you feel in terms of lighthearted sexual desire (not of love). The emotional effect her body, her behaviour, her mannerisms, has on you. That's what flirting is. Tell her the things she makes you feel in terms of attraction and sexual desire

"The way you are trying so hard not to kiss her right now", "the way you lose concentration when she smiles cute like that, the way your heart rate increases when she does "that" particular thing", "the way her gaze kinda hypnotizes you", "the way her touch hits you like a wave", "the way her mannersims warm up your heart", "the way you feel so drawn to her and can't help it", "the way your mind just short-circuit when you saw her wearing that dress", the way you forgot what you were planning on doing today when you saw how cute she looked", "the way she just took your breath away", "the way you can't help but imagine how you'd like to pin her against the wall and make her yours",...

This is how you flirt, not by telling them compliments or descriptions of what good qualities she has, but by expressing the emotional effect her attributes or actions have on you instead.

It's something that you say without expecting anything in return, so you should not expect her to tell you thank you, or i feel the same way, or i like you too or anything, it's simply you telling her "i just tell you because it's just how i feel and only want it to share it". And this behaviour requires you to stop caring about getting one particular specific girl and instead just go for many HOT girls, and aim to make them feel your desire without attaching yourself to any outcome. In other words, let women who don't feel your vibe go.

Now, she could say whatever she wants like: "we barely know each other", "you are so direct or too foward", "i have a boyfriend", "it's weird that you express yourself like this"... Whatever, that's all her social conditioning and logical side speaking. If she says things like that, you don't say sorry, or take it back, or go defensive, or anything, you simply double down by saying "i hear you, i don't want anything, it's just how i feel, and i'm just sharing it because i can't resits you right now, you make it so damn hard, like a magenet that i can't help but feel drawn to".

See what you do with this type of emotionally driven expression? You are not convicing her, you are not asking for something, you are just expressing how you feel interanlly because that should be your only focus. Express and express what most guys usually hide.

And in the contet of sex, it's pretty much the same thing. You feel like having sex? you communicate it like i descriebd above,... You don't say "i would like to have sex with you" because that's rational request, which doesn't invite her to feel but to analyse you. You express the sexual desire that she makes you feel without expecting clarity from her or validation or to give it to you in that moment. You simply express that something happens in your body that lights it up and you are simply sharing it with her.

This is the secret. Literally. Express feelings without demanding anything in return for sharing your feelings. But if you express feelings expecting her to give you something, then that's pressure and it won't work. So be careful in how you express it to not make it sound transactional or demanding or like a covert request.

Title	How to flirt
Author	Embarrassed-Cap6717
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Date	September 8, 2025 8:38 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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