One of the quickest improvements most guys could stand to make in seduction is to stop complimenting girls. We've all seen it (or done it), the hapless loser walks up to an attractive girl and just goes on and on about how great she is. He'll tell her she's beautiful, amazing, smart, etc in hopes that she will be blown away and fall madly in love with him. It almost never works.

The first lesson most of us learn in game is that of value-- the idea that in order to appear attractive to a woman we must display that we possess features that make us stand out as a potential sexual partner. Complimenting a girl, we're told, lowers our value because it puts her on a pedestal above you. And in most cases it sort of does, but that statement misses the point. It's not the compliments that are the problem, it's the supplication.

Basically, it can look like sucking up. Just like someone might try this with their boss in hopes of getting a promotion, many men do it with women in hopes of getting laid. The problem is that it feels shallow and fake. She doesn't want you to call her beautiful because you want to fuck her. If there's an ulterior motive, it will be meaningless. On top of that, it makes her feel like you have nothing to offer her, as if by complimenting her you're really asking "if I'm nice to you will you talk to me and maybe even have sex with me?"

But, this doesn't mean compliments have no place in game. So many guys with that outlook are blatantly missing a powerful tool they can use. Once you have already established value, giving a girl a compliment can serve very useful, won't hurt your value, and can actually increase your value. They can be useful as they are a great way to build comfort with a girl, a sense of closeness and intimacy, and frankly can put her in a good mood. They won't hurt your value as long as you don't give them for no reason-- this is to say, just randomly giving her compliments. You want to compliment her when she actually gives you reason to. And, if used with skill, compliments can actually increase your value in an interesting way.

Girls are used to getting blasted with compliments by low value guys. If you can compliment her in unique, thoughtful, interesting ways it's just going to further implant in her mind how different you are from those guys. In other words, you're able to do skillfully what all these other chodes struggle with. The key is not to compliment in the obvious cliche ways.

If you don't think you understand the nuances of when or how to compliment a girl, then don't. But, if you want another skill to use in game, compliments are definitely overlooked far too often.