There are three ways to take a compliment from a woman.

  1. Accept it. This is the fool-proof response. If a woman compliments, saying "thank you" displays confidence. You *accept* the compliment, i.e., you know it's true. Secondly, it plants you more in the "being chased" position. In my experience, when you accept a compliment, woman say something like, "Oh yeah" and repeat it or even amplify it and give you another compliment afterwards. Not always, but often. So, say thank you, give them a warm smile, and maybe hold the silence for a few seconds before resuming the conversation, although she'll usually be giddy enough to continue the conversation. You can never go wrong with accepting the compliment.
  2. Playfully refuse it. I learned this from women. You compliment them and they say, "Oh, no I'm not" in a playful way. It goads you into reinforcing the compliment and explaining yourself further. If a girl compliments you, maybe by saying you're cute, you can smile and look away, then laugh to yourself. Or you can be more cheeky and say, "Oh stop it!" and lightly swipe in the air, like you're playfully shooing away the compliment. From what I've seen, this invites her to go, "No, really you are!" It has a higher chance of getting more from her, but is also higher risk, since she might see it as an indicator of low self-esteem. If you want to spice things up and get more from her, then try this.
  3. Accept and Reciprocate. With the first method, resisting the urge to reciprocate is an indicator of high-value, since you don't feel the need to return the compliment, because it doesn't NEED to be returned. You're allowed to be cherished and leave it at that. HOWEVER, if you two are really vibing and the chemistry is insane, then reciprocating is a good move. It amplifies the sexual tension. Notice I use the word "reciprocate" instead of "compliment back." Complimenting back can be used. She says you're cute, and you call her cute back and smile at her. She bites her lip. It's on. That works. But words aren't always necessary. You can also reciprocate with ACTION. Maybe she's sitting next to you and calls you cute. You smile, lean in, and kiss her. This REWARDS her compliment, which is standard operant conditioning. You reward good behavior. It can also be her standing in front of you at a bar, with your back to the wall. She calls you handsome or smart, so you grab her by the lower back and pull her in closer, rewarding her compliment with intimacy. If the compliment is large enough, you can springboard it into pulling her. She calls you sexy and you say, "Let's get out of her," grab her hand and bring her home. Reciprocation should only be used when it's ON with her already, she's into you, and you want to really amplify the sexual tension. The level of your reciprocation should match how into you she is at the moment, e.g., don't kiss her after a simple compliment at the start of the interaction and there are no overt signs of overt interest from her.

Hector Castillo