24 Male. I am in a three year graduate program and over the past month or so this girl from the class under me has been inviting me out, sending me snapchats, texting me, and we have been flirting back and forth. at first i enjoyed her company since we are in such a busy program and it gets lonely. she told me that she had a dream that we hooked up which escalated things rather quickly. one night we went on a double date and afterwards I asked her about how she felt and she said that she just got out of a 3 year relationship after starting the program and that she is not looking for anything at all. I talked about just hooking up but she said itd be too messy. over the course of the next week, i felt more and more self conscious since i feel like ive already shown my hand. Last friday she sent me a snapchat of her drinking with another guy and his roomate (F) which made me feel like i was getting played. the next day i asked her if she wanted to hang out but she didnt answer throughout the whole day. later on that night she told me she was just going to bed. i stopped replying to her snap and texts on sunday since i thought she was just leading me on, etc. sunday night she askes me to hang out monday but there was a lot going on in the week, i told her i couldnt do that day. the more i pulled back more she kept snapchatting me saying she missed, asking me if i was okay. i told her that i really liked her and told me the same thing again about not wanting anything serious and that her ex has been texting her. she tells me she really wants me in her life but doesnt want anything more. at this point i know shes been getting really close to the other guy she was drinking with and even started texting my roomate (M). things have been superakward now. I feel like shit and not sure how to process all this.

I feel like i was a distraction for her from her ex and it was fun and games until things got a little too serious. shes likes the attention she was getting from me and i liked the attention i was getting from her. but now that she is getting attention from these two other guys, i am just left hanging. to be fair to her, i have been a little closed off and akward with her. i feel like shit but it is what it is. i guess my only option now is to pullback and just focus on myself. rejection sucks.

TLDR: newly single girl flirts with me but pulls back when things got a little serious. Now is flirting with other guys. i caught feels and rejections sucks.

Thanks for reading and I'd appreciate any advice i can get.