Hello Seddit,

I wish I never left you. It seemed like just yesterday that we had become enamored with each other. I gave you what you needed and boy did you give me what I needed. But I made a mistake, baby. I left because I thought I had outgrown you. Will you take me back?

I sincerely hope some of you remember me from my lessons/posts from 1.5 years ago. I made promises of regular updates, but then I disappeared. This was my own fault, I wound up getting involved in a very toxic relationship which left my depressed and struggling to get my life back in order. I got out of it after a few months, but the debris and dust hadn't settled. I was a mess and no longer able to game. I had discarded that part of myself by mistake and I thought I wouldn't be able to get it back. I gave up (I even still have a lot of material that I wrote but never posted).

Recently, I had a change of heart, my friends. Pick-up changed my life for the better, and I'm back here swinging for the fences. It took my a long time to regain my momentum. I had to develop a strategy for it, which I will go into detail later on in this post. Let me tell you that I am so glad that I have it back. I feel the energy coursing through my body like it never has before. Reinvigoration is the feeling of life, excitement and nostalgia all rolled into one. It is amazing.

Maybe there are those of you out there who are looking to get back into the game after some time off. Trust me - I know how hard it is. I hope this post helps you. For the rest of you, let this motivate you into achieving unbelievable momentum in your life. For the beginners, this is not just a way to get back into the game, but a way to enter it as well.

Ladies and gentleman, while this post was not originally going to be my third installment, I think it is the most appropriate. So please read, enjoy and as always - discuss in the comments.

Mr. Right's Seduction 103 - Getting Back into the Game

When you are out of momentum, it can seem like you've lost it all. You have AA, and when you do approach, women don't respond to you the way they used to. Your eye contact is uneasy and you can feel the confidence leave your body as you speak. You no longer string conversations as you reach for boring questions like 'What do you do?' All of these are the symptoms of one thing: poor inner-game.

You no longer believe in yourself. You have no women in your life so you are coming from a place scarcity and not abundance. You haven't looked a women in the eye in a long time so you are out of practice. It's best to imagine these are the main obstacles.

  1. Lack of Self-Confidence
  2. Scarcity Mentality
  3. Attachment to Outcome

Obstacle #1: Self-Confidence

We will now tackle each of these obstacles as we have tackled learning seduction in the past. By figuring out the appropriate materials and strategies to use to conquer these, we will vastly improve our game. First - always remember that self-confidence is a matter of self-image.

If you are not living up to what you believe you should be, then you will have low self-image. What you must do is make deliberate steps to becoming your best self. Then you can look at yourself and say, 'Yeah I'm on my way there.'

You can also fake-it-till-you-make-it. Amy Cuddy in her TED talk on power posing (google this right now it will change your life) proves that you can actually make yourself confident simply by going through the motions of acting like someone who is confident. You can 'power-pose' to pump your testosterone and become alpha.

Obstacle #2: Scarcity mentality

This was the hardest one for me. I mean, how do you get out of scarcity if you have no one? If you are scarce you will continue to get no one. Seems like a Catch-22. But it's not! Actually sleeping with a bunch of women is not what is needed to remove a scarcity mentality. All you need is to realize that there are a hundred people out there who would love to be with you. Trust me on this - everyone is looking for someone and you have what they want. Most of the time they just don't know it.

If you need tangible evidence of this, then actually approach women and get just one number. That one number is all the proof that you need that there are a bunch of women out there who will go out with you - you just haven't approached them yet. Chances are if one girl talked to you, then others will too.

Scarcity mentality is just that. It is a matter of perspective. By changing your perspective you can move yourself into abundance mentality with a single thought.

But if you really want to eradicate this feeling. I mean just demolish it, then do what I did and inflate the number of dates you go on. Be relentless with the dating. Even with girls you don't like that much. Just so that you know in the back of your mind - yeah I am dating a lot of people, I should feel abundant.

Obstacle #3: Attachment to outcome

The final main block to getting back into the game is attachment to outcome. When you leave the game too long and you try to reenter you are like a spoiled child. You demand having that same success you had before, but it is just not there. You are seeking the success and it will never come to you because you are so attached to proving that you can do it again. But it is gonna take some time, my friend. You have to ramp that momentum back up.

What is this best way to do this? Fall in love with the process. Fall in love with every workout you do like it is the most amazing beautiful woman you have ever seen. Become enamored with every set you open, and bask in its after glow as you get blown it. Praise yourself for holding eye contact with the creepy fat dude on the train for 30 seconds until he finally looked away. Fall in love with learning the game again and you will learn the game again.

Now that you have blasted through those mental blocks to getting back into the game, then you are well on your way to pick-up mastery.

Assignment

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