How to neg, push pull without hurting her feelings or making her mad?

HappySprinter · 2025-01-17T14:32:47+00:00

So you’re saying racially demeaning a woman didn’t make her attracted to you? Damn that’s crazy

DaygameCode · 2025-01-17T15:27:37+00:00

“_If you looked a bit more european i would totally like you_”

Translation: “You aren’t white, and i wish you were, cuz i would not date a person who isn’t white”

Not sure why you don’t see how being racist is unlikely to get a good reception. Don’t neg people. It’s outdated.

Push and pull is also not the same thing as negging. Push and pull is about creating tension and intrigue in a flirty conversation, which involves alternating between showing interest (PULL) and playfully withdrawing the interest or teasing (PUSH) without insulting or making the woman feel inferior.

Push and pull example:

Her: “I am from Mali in Africa”

You: “Oh you should NOT have said that” (PUSH)

Her: Why?

You; Because i always wanted to meet someone from Mali (PULL)

Her: Haha really?

You: “Oh yeah, but I heard things about women from Mali that have me concerned about you” (PUSH)

Her: What things?

You: That you guys are heartbreakers, charming, gorgeous, and impossible to forget” (PULL)

Her: Haha, the legends are true, so you better watch out”

You: Yeah, i can feel it’s kind of dangerous being this close to you, should probably get away from you (PUSH) but i think i’m already falling under your spell (PULL)

Her: Hahaha, you are funny 😂… blah blah blah…

Dangerous-Memory3735 · 2025-01-17T13:56:37+00:00

Weird ass comment. Don’t make a girl feel like she’s not enough or not the right kind of attractive for you. Women are attracted to good feelings. I doubt that comment would make her feel good.

It’s just an asshole thing to say.

It’d be like if you told me ‘damn if only your tits were bigger’ (they’re tiny lol) and that would make me feel inadequate and like you’re not attracted to me and also I just wouldn’t want to associate with someone who focuses on the things they don’t like about me.

Teasing and nagging can be fun but that’s just dickish behaviour

KoleSekor · 2025-01-17T16:24:30+00:00

Never make insulting comments about aspects of a woman's physical appearance that she can't help. Playfully tease her about behavioral things like the things she says and does.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-01-17T14:02:51+00:00

Negging should be subtle and delicate not blatant insult.

Silly_Randy · 2025-01-17T15:50:33+00:00

Negging is just banter. Or busting balls with your boys.

You say it out of love and humour.

Then you go back to normal chat. Let her bust your balls too. You can even help her.

That is push and pull.

You can also be funny, light and then talk about deep, emotional topics. Go back to light. Or normal, everyday chat.

That is also push and pull. Also known as hot and cold.

You show her interest then you take it away.

It's a rollercoaster of emotions instead of obvious e.g I love you, you're hot, I am desperate for your pink vagina.

EvanMcCormick · 2025-01-17T16:30:16+00:00

Women are attracted to things that trigger emotions in them. I wouldn't use that line because racism, but you will have more success saying things that make her mad at you then things that make her bored with you. Girls love to fuck guys they can complain about to their friends later.

koengre · 2025-01-17T16:41:46+00:00

Negging is an art this is a disqualifier. You should never do that to something a person can't change a well placed neg is "Wow, you're nose wiggles when you talk"

666rueyov · 2025-01-17T18:31:36+00:00

You need to understand that negging is basically teasing playfully. The point is to show her you are not putting her on a pedestal but that doesn't mean you need to demean her.

Push pull is you giving her attention and then taking it away till she gives yoy some attention again

7hrog · 2025-01-17T20:33:52+00:00

Don’t talk just listen

Disastrous_Catch6093 · 2025-01-18T00:49:44+00:00

It’s about frame .

Velvettouch89 · 2025-01-18T04:33:01+00:00

Negging has continually been mis interpreted in the dating field.

Style created it for the use of 'off-handedly' show you weren't putting the woman on the pedestal. "Hey my friends have this debate...." Talk, talk talk, build rapport, pass her a napkin, " you've got a little something in your teeth" go back to what you were talking about

Guys think negging was about 'actively' disqualifying a woman straight to her face which were basically insults. Disqualifying is also another tactic misinterpreted.

Style also created the self neg in order to humble himself to a woman who felt he was out of her league. He would pick his nose or do something clumsy for example to show he was more human

Grand_Recipe_1330 · 2025-01-20T19:55:35+00:00

say something along these lines.

if you were my wife the second most persistent organ would be my liver. the first would be my heart.

this alludes to her being an alcoholic, bonus points if she is, so it negs her in that way but also then brings her back in with the power of love.

another good one is

I would love you less if you grew a third breast because it would change you.

this shows that you care about her personality and not looks because come on guys what man would NOT like a third breast but it also shows that u are capable of not loving her .

norwegiandoggo · 2025-01-17T15:07:34+00:00

Don't do it 🤷🏼‍♂️ why do you assume negging and push-pull are good seduction strategies? They are pretty bad. Negging especially.

And to point out something you might be missing; negging is only supposed to be used on women who are feeling superior / on their high horse, extremely attractive women who think they're "all that". It's not supposed to be used on most women in most situations.

Title	How to neg, push pull without hurting her feelings or making her mad?
Author	LifeIsBallOrMongolia
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Date	January 17, 2025 1:47 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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