How to stop self-rejection?

quantumactual · 2021-08-04T19:19:34+00:00

It’s called be more confident. Not caring what others think. And so forth.

‘Self rejection’ is a pitiful mindset you have that tells you that you aren’t good enough. You manifest it, and women agree with that sediment. It’s a perpetual cycle.

Again, stop giving a fuck what others think. You will be rejected, so come to grips with it. Make a good comeback, or simply shrug it off, and move on. It’s a numbers game - attractive men get rejected every day, and will continue to be so until they find a woman who’s attracted enough to give it a go.

There’s no other alternative - quit being a bitch.

thelambofdeth · 2021-08-04T17:47:02+00:00

Lol please share the answer when you find out. Self inflicted rejection literally prevents me from approaching at all.

Rick_liner · 2021-08-04T23:15:59+00:00

Less self rejection more self sabotage, you sabotage your opportunities through your learned behavior which you have developed as maladjusted coping mechanisms.

Long story short get some counselling, if you can't, introspect a fuck tonne, look for events in your life that may have caused you to develop these maladjusted strategies and recontextualise them as an adult. They usually stem from traumatic childhood experience as a means to cope. Just like avoiding sticking your hand in a fire.

You may also find it's a consequence of a core wound, you may not ever overcome these but you can develop effective strategies to deal with them.

Lastly the commenter telling you to stop being a bitch is a cunt. Ignore that shit. It's easy to tell yourself to mtfu and people often spread that shit cos it makes them sound tough and validates an image of themselves they want to project. But it won't solve the underlying problems in the long run and may very well just cause you more shit down the road. Dealing with it properly is fucking tough and will take a long time take your time, try and enjoy it, you can do it and it's worth it.

Title	How to stop self-rejection?
Author	Beautiful_Bee2380
Upvotes	5
Comments	4
Date	August 4, 2021 5:18 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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