How to touch?

tomgjo · 2019-05-26T22:27:59+00:00

Well touching is a broad subject in seduction imo. There is plenty of scenarios in which touching the girl in the right way can significantly improve your chances with her. Girls love that shit. Anyways I’ll start with an introduction. When you meet the girl, hug with both hand around her. No awkward one hand around the shoulder. Go in for it. Don’t grab her ass or anything (unless you’ve already established enough IOIS or have known the girl long enough to shoot your shot. Keep complete body contact. When you hug have your body touching her while you lightly squeeze her towards you.

If you’re ever using a neg, or teasing her and she acts offended, say I’m just messing with u haha and put a hand on her arm.

Both of those ways you can get more comfortable touching a girl without fear of rejection. A hug is a common greeting. Like I said give her a nice firm hug, but nothing creepy. Touching while conversing isn’t going to creep her out but it still gives her a starting physical connection with you.

Lastly when you’re on the close. You have enough IOIs to know that the girl likes you. (She’s sitting close to you, touching your hands, gazing into your eyes...etc). You make your move. Kissing a girl, and knowing how to move your hands across her body are two keys into getting a girl turned on. They love foreplay. When I go in for the kiss I put my hand on the back of her head that way I have the control while we kiss. All girls kiss differently the more I’m in control the less risk of having awkward chemistry with someone. Once you get the hang of it, and the two of you are in sync move in to kiss her neck but have your hand run down the side of chest to the outside thigh. Then just move your hands across her body. Once you see she’s starts getting into go into the inner thigh. That’s the sweet spot to get her going.

When you’re grabbing her during the close stages grip her thighs, and rub up and down. As far as pressure goes you want to be somewhat forceful. Let her know you have control. But don’t cross the line of hurting her. Hope this helps :) let me know if you have certain questions. I’m well seasoned

muff_marauder · 2019-05-26T21:16:44+00:00

At first: accidentally but on purpose

Eventually: with purpose.

Dippy_Dingus · 2019-05-27T04:09:33+00:00

Physical escalation bro. Start from the safest and go from there. When you laugh with her put your hand on her shoulder, for like 2-3 seconds. Always gauge her reaction. If she looks pissed or grossed out, she is not into you. Likely, she won't have much of a reaction or she will touch you back (good sign!) So escalate. There is a touch for every situation. If she looks upset, put your hand on the middle of her back, lean in and ask her if she is ok while maintaining strong eye contact. If you are goofing around, maybe a light (very light) playful punch on the arm. Escalate. Work your way to lightly pinching her elbow for a sec. This sounds so weird but it is one of my favorite places to go for. The elbow is safe, but it also an errogenous zone, meaning it is sexually stimulating.

Basic thing is, if she is ok with it keep pushing it to see where you can take it. Shoulder, upper back, mid back, light touch on the top of the hand, lower back etc. Say she is fine all the way and then you put your hand on her lower back and she pulls back a bit. Ok... So too far, but no need to freak out! Go back to what she was ok with, the mid back, the hand etc. It feels completely awkward and unnatural when you start out and that is something you just have to overcome by doing it. The results will amaze you!

If things are going really well and she is responsove to all your touches and you can feel the horniness in the air, go in for the kiss. If she turns her head, don't skip a beat and plant that fucker right on her cheek. Trust me, I'm a doctor.

stevenmarkryan · 2019-05-27T00:12:32+00:00

Good timing. I just published a video + article on exactly this thing: https://youtu.be/Ij2NPCCcn5o

If you have follow-up questions, let me know. Shit is easy once you get it, but hard to figure out at first.

tretchman · 2019-05-27T07:21:44+00:00

given that she's relatively comfortable around you, if she has tattoos (on her arms, let's say) you can touch and make a comment about it. How she reacts may also reveal how she feels about you (tho not all the time), since in this case the touch was unexpected, so her reaction will be reflexive. Also if you say a funny joke or watch something funny and you guys share a laugh you can tap her or lightly grab her arm. This one is hard to explain but you see people doing this all the time w/ other people, when people share a laugh they'll sorta "hold onto" each other. I feel like other people have already given you good advice tho, so there's nothing really more I'd add

Ulanyouknow · 2019-05-27T08:38:08+00:00

Thats a very good question.

For me its very easy to close the touch distance as I gesticulate a lot with my hands. If your hands stay to your sides all the time it will be difficult to breach the distance.

An inoffensive hand or shoulder or hand on back while you guys are talking side by side is a good place to start and reassures her but also you as well, if you are not used to being touchy on conversations. Women dont bite.

KnutSkywalker · 2019-05-27T12:43:40+00:00

Alright, I accidentally did something very right when I dated this girl last Thursday. We had this inside joke going on (because we met at a birthday and we both were super drunk) where I tried to explain black holes to her. It failed miserably, by the way. Whatever.

I told her to give me her hand, I grabbed it and I wanted to explain again, but this time sober. I explained to her the mass of earth and told her to imagine her hand was earth, her thump was the moon and stuff like that. Everything as an excuse to grab and hold her hand. It was totally random, totally awesome and you could tell that after that she was way more comfortable touching me. When we got out of the bar I grabbed her hand again and I walked her to her car, holding hands like a couple. Right before where she parked I stopped, turned to her, pulled her towards me and kissed her.

What I wanted to say with this whole story is: Just think of good excuse to touch her hand or whatever and make it entertaining. That way you can take it to the next level step by step.

brabg · 2019-05-27T15:57:47+00:00

Google about kino escalation.

Put her hair over her eyes, and "complain" about her being disheveled.

Each time she smiles put her hair over her face as a reward, smiling and saying "you are fun!".

Title	How to touch?
Author	Sovinkov
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Date	May 26, 2019 9:13 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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