How to work on inner game?

PhilosopherMaster1 · 2019-08-22T05:12:41+00:00

How you talk to your friends is how you should talk to girls.

I was the same way, until this really hot girl sat next to me at school I started talking to her just by saying "Hello"... and then I thought I looked like an idiot by hanging back but the biggest thing is just stay calm... and I realized she was actually cool with it!!

"Hey how's it going?"

My mind messed with me like "oh god I just said that" "oh no i just did that"

But I just stayed calm, and she actually liked it.

With girls I found out that saying things in absolutes helps, be decisive.

A girl comes up to you and says "which dress looks better?"

Say THIS ONE.

A girl says "what music do you like?"

"I listen to metal"

Don't second guess anything is the biggest advice I can give you.

As long as you have the confidence to back up your reasoning for things you'll be good.

"Metal? EW WHY? All that screaming??"

Yeah I like the passion, have you ever been to a metal concert? There's way more energy and they seem to have more passion for what they're doing then any other concert I've been to plus you're not just standing around you can mosh...

I feel like having justification helps a lot.

At a police interview they ask you questions and make you double think your answers.

The trick is not to double back and to stick with an answer...

So like "you arrive on scene of a house fire do you call an ambulance or go in and help the people inside?"

I'd call the ambulance first then go in

"WHY THE PEOPLE INSIDE ARE DYING, why wouldn't you go in and help them first?"

"Because I'll be able to bring them out but I'll have to wait for an ambulance anyways..."

And not double back and be like "well yeah I guess I should have called the ambulance first"

See what I mean?

mandoa_sky · 2019-08-22T07:06:48+00:00

r/selfimprovement r/therapy

Sheroclan · 2019-08-22T08:30:22+00:00

There's a sick section on the sidebar of this sub. Give all of it a read

Return_Of_BG_97 · 2019-08-22T05:36:23+00:00

Focus on things you want to learn about. It could be anything. Religion, politics, philosophy, etc. Find what drives you, and makes you feel whole.

I've got into foreign relations the last few years and it's made me a better man.

WFoster88 · 2019-08-22T07:28:49+00:00

You could start a small business, work out, start a band, go to lots of parties, read powerful books, backpack Europe.

There are loads of ways to increase your confidence (aka inner game).

Start with some self help books. Anything by [Tony Robbins](https://www.amazon.com/Awaken-Giant-Within-Immediate-Emotional-ebook/dp/B001EM101Q?SubscriptionId=AKIAILSHYYTFIVPWUY6Q&tag=duckduckgo-d-20&linkCode=xm2&camp=2025&creative=165953&creativeASIN=B001EM101Q), Eckhart Tolle, Dale Carnegie, to start.

Hey. What am I doing wrong in this link?

79trombones · 2019-08-22T11:52:56+00:00

It's a circular process that involves updating your core internal beliefs by initially altering your external behaviors, perceiving success, correctly attributing what was the cause of that success, leading to an update of more accurate/better inner beliefs. Explained in detail in this book..

Kylemoa1 · 2019-08-22T06:54:37+00:00

Inner game is developed primarily through three paths

Writing things down and reading them. Who you are? What you want (in life, experiences and so on) All the great things about you, your goals, dreams, vision, and self-affirmations. You write it down and you read that shit EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Mentoring and accountability. You find someone to help you or someone you want to be like and you express the items noted in point number one. Whoever you choose to work with or be like should have similar goals and values or at the least understand your goals.
Plan, pattern, practice, repetition, exposure and continuous improvement. Arguably the toughest part aside from actually starting is committing to a thing, to you getting better, more confident and growing. You do it through repetition and sticking to a structure or plan that challenges you.

Look, none of this is rocket science. In fact its pretty basic. There are nearly endless available resources on how to do this and really make the change. It's all in a book somewhere, a google search away or on youtube. Take notes and put them into practice and find someone to make sure you follow through.

Title	How to work on inner game?
Author	throwawayzibil
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Date	August 22, 2019 1:58 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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