I recently met a girl who lives near me, in a student residence party. The first time we talked, it went really well — great connection, I felt she was interested. I even helped her with her university project.

A few days later, we ran into each other again in front of the residence. We started talking, and I asked her how her project was going.

She told me, “Yesterday I didn’t go to university — I had a panic attack.”

I replied, “Why?”, without thinking — I thought she meant a small stress issue related to the project, since that’s what we were talking about.

But clearly, it was more serious. She started cr-ying, she had tears in her eyes, and got emotional.

I’m not someone who expresses emotions easily (i don't know why) and in that moment, I kind of froze. I just looked at her and didn’t know what to say (talking about problems with a girl i want to seduce is not a good idea ? so i wanted to get out from it )

Then I tried to change the subject by asking, "Did your teammates make progress?” (She had told me before they weren’t doing much work.) She answered that she had pressured them..... etc and we continued talking for some minutes .....

Since that day, she distanced herself and stopped talking to me, and keeping just: Hi , hello ... etc

Now I’m wondering — do you think the lack of empathy or emotional reaction in that moment killed the connection or attraction? what would you do in this case ? (she was a nice person i wanted to know more).