I can not flirt. I don't have the basic understanding...

letsgetrandy · 2017-06-15T18:39:07+00:00

Last night, the bartender was wearing a low-cut top. When she bent down to scoop ice, she (unknowingly) had the boobs on a nice display.

After she handed me my drink, I smiled and said, "I think I need more ice". As she bent down to get some more ice, I smiled and said "yeah, like that...." and then she realized what was going on.

THAT is flirting.

marthdotsk · 2017-06-15T17:52:13+00:00

"alright you persuaded me haha, I'll try this" and she gave me a little nudge.

"Tell me how ya like it."

That's simple, and it opens the door for further conversation.

The reason most people end up not being witty is because they actually try too hard. Keep it simple. There are times when less is more.

Your object is to tickle her emotionally. With positive emotions. You can also push-pull, which basically is playfully feigning disinterest just to get a reaction out of her, followed by playfully indicating interest.

You also need to create attraction. So your teases/banter/push-pull should be sexually charged. Not all the freaking time, not necessarily always towards her, but more with the objective of progressively getting the image in her head, and make her comfortable with said image. Imagery is unbeliveably powerful! Don't overdo that either, however. When you "raise temperature", so to speak, you have to cool it down a notch before taking it further. 2 steps forward, one step back.

And to add a bit more to the concept of imagery, usage of inclusive pronouns help a lot with that. More specifically with "we". I personally find that if you manage to drive the conversation in a "it's us vs the world, and we'll win anyday" sort of context, rapport gets easily built. All because of this image you build and amplify in her mind. The "we" pronoun should be in any man's toolbox, really.

CrimsonAtom · 2017-06-16T08:36:44+00:00

I feel you, man. I cannot flirt, I naturally lie about everything and conceal my feelings.

Some girls are really good at flirting though, so I normally leave it to them. Just be friendly to them, be in contact with them, and show that you are interested. And even if they do flirt with you, sometimes it's a tease.

Here is an example of a creative flirt that I recieved:

One time we were playing a game where I ask a question and several people have to answer. I choose my personal favorite answer for the question. Question was: "What was the most impressive man made structure of all time?" My friend who, I think kinda likes me, but not fully, wrote "You" and then she winked at me. Of course I gave her the win.

luaudesign · 2017-06-16T12:58:26+00:00

Look them in the eyes and smile while you talk. That's enough.

Title	I can not flirt. I don't have the basic understanding...
Author	ApollosSin
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	June 15, 2017 5:18 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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