I don't know what I'm doing wrong

bl1y · 2015-02-15T23:30:36+00:00

If you're able to approach, hook a set, and get a number, it's probably not your attitude. And based on that picture, your look is probably hurting your game.

Notice I said your look, not your looks. Your look is completely devoid of style. Get some clothes that aren't so generic, get some clothes that actually fit you, and get a haircut that makes you look like you actually care.

Not only will you be more physically attractive, you'll convey a better persona. We take care of the things that are really important to us. Ever notice how much time car lovers spend washing their cars? When you look sloppy, you let others know that you don't care much about yourself. Why should a girl care about you if you don't even care?

DamagingDoritos · 2015-02-16T00:36:10+00:00

You're very lucky because the things you need to fix are fucking easy!

You are already an outgoing guy: not afraid to talk to a girl, get her number, banter with her, etc.

You just gotta get with the times.

Go to h&m and get some good fitting t-shirts and trendy looking sweatshirts. Basic v-necked fitted t's are like $5. Buy them all and start feeling comfortable wearing them. Then head next door to American Eagle and splurge on two or three good pairs of jeans. Preppy American Eagle polos are not the current style anymore, but they still make damn good jeans. Get dark blue denim and you'll be set. You're a skinny guy, so get slim straight fit. Boot cut will make you look baggy and more noticeably skinny (skinny guy here).

Go to a barber. Like a real barber. Don't go to Supercuts. The "in" hairstyle these days is super short sides faded up to either slicked longer top if you have length (you do), or shorter and messy, or spiked. Google image "men hairstyle fade", print it out, and take it to your barber and say "make me look like this". Barber shops are super trendy right now, and they cut that style all day long for popular dudes and they'll get yours right. Then go to Walmart and get pomade if you want the slicked back Leonardo Dicaprio look, hair paste if you want the messy look, or a light hold gel if you want it spiked. Don't get strong hold gel or you will look like you're rocking the spiked hairstyle my 11 year old brother has right now.

Keep clean. You hair looks greasy in the picture you posted. If you are super clean, girls will think you're attractive. It's just physics.

I know it's cliche, but hit the gym. Even if you don't want to get big muscles, a little work a couple days a week will shape some muscle definition and you will look better. It's also healthy and you'll feel better about yourself and blah blah blah, but if you just shape some definition to your arms, shoulders, and chest, that'll make a huge difference and make you look fit. Girls double-take fit guys.

Full smiles! Half smiles make you look unconfident, or like your hiding something that's stuck in your teeth. Neither of these things are attractive. Full smiles show confidence, so show them teeth!

And don't try so hard in your texts. You're definitely a funny guy, but don't beat a joke into the ground just to keep the conversation going. Short but frequent text exchanges really do work best. Definitely have conversations over text, cause that's where girls spend their time, but if you feel a conversation is dying, let it die. It's tough, cause you want to talk to her and build rapport, but having the confidence to let a convo die is actually a pretty noticeable trait, and you can pick up later in the day with something different to stay on her mind. Just make it seem like you could talk to her or not - either way is fine, because you have other shit to do anyways. Even if you don't have anything else going on, it'll look like you do. Busy people are important, and important people are attractive. Be more aloof!

You can tackle most of this shit in an afternoon, so do it all tomorrow, and notice your success go up immensely.

this_weirdo_chick · 2015-02-15T22:15:33+00:00

Sounds like it's probably something you're doing afterwards. How do you act after you have their number/the next day/the next week? You don't give much detail on how you're acting with girls so it's hard to say.

Dyablo66 · 2015-02-15T23:02:57+00:00

If this is your outfit for going out, you definitely need to up it. You're not bad looking, you just look too much like a plain nice guy. I'd definitely get a different hairstyle and better clothes. For me personally, change of style did a HUGE difference even though it might seem superficial. Find a good hairstylist and let him give you something great. For clothes, I'd start with getting a good tailored shirt, fitting slim jeans and some good looking shoes. After that, experiment with fashion and try to find something you like and it makes you stand out from most of the other guys (for example, my current favourite outfit is kind of a rocker look - boots, black skinny jeans and a biker jacket. Very few guys dress like that so I catch much attention). Also check out Models by Mark Manson if you didn't yet, maybe there's something wrong with the way you're talking to them, this books tells it all. You're already approaching, that makes you better than 80% guys. Good luck!

ryallen23 · 2015-02-15T21:54:33+00:00

Well it's definitely not your looks, because you look like a fun, happy guy who's just chill and ready to have fun and go on an adventure or something.

Tbrahn · 2015-02-15T20:23:25+00:00

It's just so frustrating! I'm 21 and have never had girlfriend, danced with a girl, kissed a girl, etc. You've all heard that story. Everyone always says "don't give up you'll find someone eventually" but the evidence seems to say otherwise.

Overall my life is great and I'm incredibly lucky but it's just frustrating that everyone around me seems to have no problems and I'm just eternally single for no real reason.

iliketurtlesdurr · 2015-02-16T01:18:32+00:00

they can tell you're bluffing

Title	I don't know what I'm doing wrong
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Upvotes	4
Comments	17
Date	February 15, 2015 8:20 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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