I feel like this is true

BadReynolds · 2011-12-04T05:07:55+00:00

Please note that I mean no offense to any of you guys (I tend to be somewhat insecure about my height and skin color myself). I just think that he has a great point in BEING SOMEONE YOU RESPECT. I mean, that line kind of resonated with me more than anything else I've ever read/heard/seen relative to pickup.

RcskaSedd · 2011-12-04T05:20:07+00:00

This is a really good food for thought. I cant really say much about this, it did resonate with me a lot and you're right. I think pick up is just a guideline, and to me doing pick up is fun, trying new things and adding new personality to myself make me feel like i am growing. Idk maybe its my ego that likes that. Their are bad sides to pick up and their are good side to pick up.

BadReynolds · 2011-12-04T15:59:35+00:00

Furious is awesome. Look into some more of his videos (an the actual guy Dean Leysen, not his comedic alter ego).

drumdance · 2011-12-04T22:22:53+00:00

Techniques are like training wheels. They help you get into sets and build confidence. Eventually your true self has to emerge, but it's a more attractive version.

MockingDead · 2011-12-04T17:11:46+00:00

I tend to agree. But I still see techniques as the bridge between insecurity and this. Social dynamics are not really taught, and are very complex, so breaking it down allows someone to go from no interaction to some interaction.

Techniques can scaffold (Psychologically) someone unprepared ffor PUA. But, the ultimate goal of techniques is to have no technique at all.

perchrc · 2011-12-04T17:48:54+00:00

What is definitely true is that most people who get into pickup do it because they are insecure about themselves. Not that there's anything wrong with that. Here are some thoughts about the rest:

It's normal and expected to act a bit different when you pick up girls than when you get into a relationship with someone.
The most important part of pickup is self-improvement/inner game. These are not things you "put on" in social situations, they become a part of you.
You can learn how to become a better person through thought and experience, but like other things (such as physics) it's easier when you read about it first. There's a lot of good material out there, and I recommend that you read it.

Yet, he has a point. There's something to the typical "be yourself" advice that your mom gives you all the time. In particular, don't lie! Don't tell a woman that you like something that you don't, or have an interest that you don't have.

ShittyPUA · 2011-12-04T19:23:14+00:00

From what I've seen, this is only a fraction of all of pickup. Sure, a lot of PU is confidence, but there's also things like being able to escalate, which if you do wrong, you just end up looking creepy (speaking from experience, from before I discovered PU) and drive the girl away. AFCAdam likes enumerate the qualities of a natural like this:

Pre-selection (showing that you have value to women)
Confidence (this)
Escalation

If you don't have Escalation, your relationships aren't going to go anything beyond a couple of people talking at each other. Pre-selection gets the chicks to you. Confidence keeps them there.

2011-12-04T19:26:25+00:00

Wonder if he listened to RSD.

Title	I feel like this is true
Author	BadReynolds
Upvotes	46
Comments	11
Date	December 4, 2011 5:04 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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