I need help.

readonlyuser · 2014-08-03T16:31:37+00:00

You're making the same mistake I made when I was 16. Don't use generalities ("I always screw up", "I'll never get laid", etc.), don't dramatize reality, don't look for pity.

This post is totally off-topic, but if you have some specific questions, the community will be more than happy to help.

In the meantime, instead of thinking about this as a large overwhelming problem, why don't you get specific? Write down the specific problems you're facing in this area, and your specific difficulties in these areas.

Once you actually break it down, you'll find most of your problems are due to basic and simple habits you have that hold you back, and are easily fixable.

unruly_teapot · 2014-08-03T17:23:49+00:00

No idea what your context is but to make friends you have to be in a situation where you see the same people frequently and share unique experiences. Otherwise you just meet people and they will remain just as acquaintances. Team sports are good for this.

Spaceman7Spiff · 2014-08-03T18:32:49+00:00

When I was 16, i didnt know my ass from my elbow and felt very much the way you describe. I think some of it will just be solved with age and maturity. But if i could go back and tell myself some things they'd be to just relax and take advantage of the time you have to be a shithead teenager. Enjoy and consciously appreciate every little thing thats good in your life. You are smart enough to recognize that you have a problem, now take your first steps to being a man and solve it. Ultimately nobody gives a shit if you feel alone so dont wait for someone to come along and rescue you (like i did) Read and research whatever you need to (its all out there) and start taking baby steps and making little changes and pretty soon you will be someone more in line with who you want to be. Hope this helps.

shadeia · 2014-08-03T21:33:38+00:00

I really like this post regardless of relevancy. I like the structure and the honesty, as well as, the genuine message it conveys. You seem like a very intelligent kid and with that ability you should have no problem applying that to to social world. Making friends is the easy part. You literally just have to do the things you like to do and talk to the people that are there doing the same thing. If talking to them is the hard part then grab ahold of what dropped out of your stomach 3 years ago and do it anyway. Practice your social interactions while making friends and then use the basics you learned there to talk to anyone you want. The biggest aid that helped me was asking myself when something went wrong, "Is it going to matter in 20 minutes?". That and telling myself that I am not the only one in the situation I am in. I'm sure most of the people in here started out just like you and became the individuals you consider to be amazing. Have hope young one, have perseverance.

Title	I need help.
Author	invinciblesummmer
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	August 3, 2014 4:12 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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