Sorry for repeating this, I just really am heartbroken and just want to know what went wrong and what I could have done better.
I (33M) met a catholic school girl who isn't fully into the rituals, but believes in god (28F) online, texted for two months due to covid and we talked about favorite movies, hobbies, religion, parents, work, school, talked about a particular show a good bit and I said I'd love to have a cuddle buddy to watch a particular movie with me and she said she would take the risk and watch it with me (so sweet), we talked about childhood a bit... flirt chat a small tiny bit. Her personality when she text is so proper and cheerful happy. She works at a mental clinic for kids who have a mental disorder, so she has a kind heart, she even went to peace corp so she has a caring heart.
First date we go to a gaming event... we met, smiled, hugged, chatted a bit, and then I told her she looks nice and she smirk smile at me and she told me I look fitting for the occasion (lumbar jack look for axe throwing) we both smile. I asked how far she is from her (the drive) talked about what got her interested in a particular job, we played our game while chatting, I made a sexual innuendo of it hanging by its tip, she repeated yeah the tip. We kept playing for about an hour and half and kept the convo simple and mainly talk about the way we were throwing (friendly vibe) and when we finished, I said lets get a photo and I picked her up and got a shot of us. Big smile she gave, then later when I hugged her bye, I went for a kiss and she gave me the cheek. Later that night she texted me with heart emoji eyes thanks for treating me, the next one is on her, and wants to see me that weekend!
So prior to the second date, she tells me she is scared of rides but willing to go if someone went with her :)...
The second date, she dolled up for me, we hugged and no compliment, the ride was close, but we played arcades and mainly talked about the last time she played arcades, and we mainly just played matching or beating scores and cheering... she then said let's grab some drinks at the bowling alley. We went to the bowling alley and I was constantly trying to find things that we had a match (same score, same bank, same etc...) we had a lot in common... while we played bowling she paid for the game and I paid for the drinks that we shared together. We played bowling and mainly just played like friends, cheering each other on and I would give her high fives or hug and spin for strikes, I touched her shoulder, in the convo I manage to pick up her favorite color, she wanted to keep playing after the game had finished (complete the whole hour) oddly after making the same strike, I said it's another match and she said yeah, it's like we're related... eventually it ended and she took my shoes and we walked outside and she told me I was really double fisting those drinks and I said yeah, smile and node. We walked to play pool and I talked about glasses and covid, we told we couldn't bring drinks in so I asked lets go in her car and she said no it's messy so we decide to toss them, we played pool like normal no physical touching and eventually she looked at her nails/frustrated look and said she's tired. So I said ok, I walked her to her car and just hugged her and I left.
I texted her if she made it home safely and that I had a good time and if she's down for another date. A day and a half goes by and said she was busy with work, but she had a good time and is down for another date.
Before the third date comes, she tells me she cares for me with a kissy emoji face. And she's ready to play golf with me with devil smile face emoji.
The third date, she wore the same outfit and dolled up, I didn't compliment her again... we hugged and we walked towards the building as I asked her if she went to the local event, which she said she doesn't have time for that anymore, younger her would had and she asked me if I went... we got to the line and it was a silence, until we got to the register and when we went to grab the balls, I got her purple (favorite color) and she said "yah, cool" and she went to grab her clubs... we walked to the par and I asked when was the last time she went mini golfing and she said last year with friends and she asked me and I said when I was a kid (that long ago) and then I told her why I choose this particular spot compared to our original plan (due to mosquitoes) and she said she went last year around the same time and it was ok for her... so I told her a short story of my fam and I at mini golf that was slightly funny and then I asked her if she has any siblings and she gave me a sigh... and said yeah, a sister. So I said ah, ok. We kept playing and then this one par had no lights and she said "it's dark here" and I said yeah, they should fix it... then I mentioned about a event I saw online and she said she was interested in that, never had a chance to go... which then I asked by the way, what kind of music you're into... and she said "anything" and I said anything in particular" and she said "anything I can hum to"... and I was like hmm ok, and continue playing... so we mainly just cheered each other on and played and eventually we came to the last shot, she made a hole in one and she seemed to not be excited about it (she wasn't even aware she made it)... so I asked lets go ride bumper carts and she said no because it takes forever to get a ride, so we walked inside and she said lets play the arcades... so we played two games, she grabbed my shoulder when I said somthing funny and she grabbed my arm... then we went inside a booth style shooting game, we both sat and played a good while, it was fun and I touched her shoulder when she was winning (I had lost already) but when she lost, I told her she did good and I got up and she was still sitting for 10 sec or so and she finally gets up and we went to our next game and I asked "after this, lets grab those drinks" and she said "I'm actually tired" and I said, really? wow, how come, "I just am" and I said ok, so she said "let's look at the prizes" and we looked and we got nothing, she wanted candy, but I said it might be expired so she said well you get what you want I said I don't want nothing, so we got nothing and we walked outside and I asked "how about I come over to your place" and she said "WHAT? Nooo" and I said "hey, you wanted to watch a movie with me remember" and she said "yahhh" and we walked to her car a little faster and when we got to her car she gives me a hug and walks to her car.
A few days later I texted her that I had a good time and can't wait to see her again... a week goes by, I said lets go to another date where we can sit and focus on us... a few days go by (stupid incoming text) I talk about expanding on physical touching and bantering and how I was slowing down because she gave me the cheek and she needs to get her head out the gutter referring to the comment of me coming over... a few more days go by and I said is everything ok? I then said I wanted to grab drinks and roleplay with her on our date (our plan) I posted a stupid thing of a ghost to laugh at and said I hope she doesn't want to throw these few months away and hope we can talk about where things went sour. A couple of days go by and I said "the only thing I can think of is the poor choice of words of asking to come by because my intentions were only good, not sexual and if she is saving herself until marriage, it's ok with me, no redflag. I then said you haven't seen the loveable side of me yet because I'm trying to shake this long covid effects and that I'm sorry if I hurt her with my comment..." a few more days go by then I sent her a heart emoji making it a total of two weeks and a few days and she wrote "Hey, I didn't realize my last message never sent. I did have a good time with you, but I don't feel in the right headspace for a romantic relationship right now. I've been kinda stressed the past couple weeks and I know you deserve someone who will communicate much more regularly that I could. I did enjoy spending time with you though. I really did."
I then wrote her 3 things about giving her space... three weeks go by and I started texting again and I texted her over 20 things in the past 3 months now and she never replied. She hasn't blocked it because it says it's being delivered.
My question is why did she sigh during that convo and not elaborate, especially with the music. She never really talked, she never said my name on our dates, she's an introvert, but told me she can be social to those who she let in. She never asked me a question, only on the second date regarding what I don't like bowling shoes and I said it looks like clown shoes. She wasn't flirtatious, only smiled at a far.
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