I want to create a Seduction 101 list

PrettyLittlePenguin · 2021-06-16T13:11:37+00:00

Yeah no, this is gonna bite you in the ass in the long run. First off, you will become very gimmicky. Go for some more foundational cheatsheet stuff rather than trying to substitute basic social skills with silly tricks.

Holding eye contact as long as possible is a bad gimmick for example, cause you want to hold eye contact enough to build (sexual) tension. But you also want to be able to release the eye contact so you don't come off as a creeper. There's nuances in this, learn it by you know, actually have proper convo's and solid eye contact. Cause yes, eye contact is a big part of seduction

Tips from me:

- Be polarizing. Don't be boring, show yourself to the fullest. Either she likes or dislikes you but you ramp up that attraction quite fast or you figure out you should go to a different girl.

- Learn how to tell proper stories and make those stories interactive so the listener gets sucked into your world.

- Have fun.

- Long term friends and such are more important than the girl. (What does it say about you when you ditch talking to a friend you've known for 10 years and suddenly give all your attention to a girl cause she's attractive?)

- Do roleplaying, create a combined world with you and the girl (practice this quite a bit. First time you'll probably be a creeper.)

- Not always open body language, but atleast proper posture and eminating good vibes.

- Be positive about you, your friends and her (but don't put her on a pedastal, walk the tightrope here)

Doorbell23 · 2021-06-16T12:15:03+00:00

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Dakessian · 2021-06-16T14:07:34+00:00

Maybe introducing yourself?

ObjectSpirited494 · 2021-06-16T10:59:17+00:00

Opening & closing, direct or indirect. The stuff you have so far on the list is all mid game

Nd400 · 2021-06-17T09:56:42+00:00

Most of the comments right here are the reason some women have so much power over guys.

You can imagine a girl being approach the same way by a couple of guys in a day. That's gonna make her head swell and she begins to feel like master of the universe.

For christ sake she is just a girl, a normal human being and not some god to be worshipped.

Try this:

"Hi, I'm not so familiar with this area, would you happen to know the closest shop, or Cafe, or library, whatever" build on that once she responds.

"Hi would you mind taking a photo of me with my mobile phone" after taking the photo "wow! this picture looks so cool, are you photographer? " continue the discussion.

Please understand that getting a girl's number doesn't mean she will go out with you. Get as many number as possible.

Observe if she is really into you when you are having a discussion with her.

Put yourself in a position to reject her and not the other way round.

She needs to be in a position to prove her worthiness to you.

Finally, If you really want to enjoy your relationship, go out with a girl that likes you more than you like her.

BuddhistPeace2 · 2021-06-16T21:47:34+00:00

Getting back in the dating game the last year or so, I initially would send girls very boring messages like ‘Hi, how are you doing?’ on dating apps and, believe it or not, that didn’t get me much of a reaction. You do have to be entertaining, at least to some degree, and this is important for relationships with friends, coworkers, as well. I’m not getting women lately these days, but I feel more confident approaching and messaging girls on dating apps now.

I think I’m general social skills can be practiced. Particularly telling jokes didn’t come naturally to me because I’ve been a very serious person, but now I try to tell a joke or make a funny comment about something going on. I think this has made me more entertaining around my friends as well.

dompoederechte · 2021-06-16T22:36:31+00:00

Maybe this sounds toxic but having the 2 3 4 or however girls I have contact to rn that want me in mind and reminding myself that this girl is lucky to get me and if shes rejecting me I just hit one of the others up. I tend to be more relaxed and many things work out better with this mindset.

iceicebabyvanilla · 2021-06-17T01:06:41+00:00

Vulnerability, at least with women worth pursuing, has been key for me. You don’t have to act perfect. She’s ultimately worried about her flaws while you’re balls deep in your own head worried about “game.”

You don’t have to have the facade of being this manly, successful, everything about you is dope, man.

Now, I’ll admittedly say I’m extremely extroverted, have a huge social circle, am very fit, make a lot of money in a notoriously lucrative industry, have hobbies/sports I pursue and excel at, and feel very comfortable talking with women (or anyone for that matter, and make them the focus seeking to understand their life). That said, I was still having issues until I dropped the facade of pride and opened up about everything, including the failures and the bad, or the things I feel I’m working on.

She’d rather pursue a man self-aware enough to point out vulnerabilities than fake her way through the night/relationship knowing you’re doing the same.

FranciscusMagister · 2021-06-17T05:59:35+00:00

i would say: speak up. speaking clearly and audibly sounds confident, avoids misunderstandings, low voice seems creepy. likewise, standing straight

Title	I want to create a Seduction 101 list
Author	Present_Plankton_950
Upvotes	44
Comments	16
Date	June 16, 2021 10:24 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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