Here's my problem, I'm not really great at seduction. In my 19 years of life, I've only had sexual experiences with 4 women. Sure, that's pretty good for only being 19, but I'm still a virgin and would like to change that. Of course, it's not my number 1 thing to do, but I'd still like to get past that.

Here are my problems. I'm needy, I doubt myself, I doubt their intentions (ie. 'Does she really like me?'), and sometimes when I meet an incredibly gorgeous girl, I think that I'm not worth her time.

Now I've been following seddit for about a day or so, and have reached some really good points about a lot of it, but I'd like to hear some more. What are some ways to get over neediness? I don't check my phone as often for text messages, I don't check fb as often for messages, I do things now for me and not anyone else...any advice on that?

When a girl messages you via fb or text, how long should you wait to reply? Or should it be instant? I'm always afraid of seeming 'needy'. Maybe that's my problem right there.

I think my other problem is landing a date. Here is an example.

Me: Hey, how was spring break? Her: hey it went ok. coulda been better. yourself? Me: if you dont mind me asking, why could it have been better? and mine was pretty good. got a lot of hiking and reading done Her: i got my heart broken. hahaha. but that sounds lovely. what kinda reading? Me: I'm sorry to hear that! Just some for fun reading. Reading Anna Karenina right now. Her: wow tolstoy huh? impressive. i usually get all my reading done over summer. my fav classic is jane eyre. Me: I think I've heard of that. What's it about? My favorite is Ulysses, even if the first....ok all of it is pretty tough haha Her: yeah jane eyre is a pretty tough book.. it's by charolette bronte and was written in 19th century old english. (bronte is british to make things even worse hahah) but i think once you get passed the verbiage and prose it's actually enjoyable. Me: Sounds interesting! Ulysses is written in that stream of consciousness form, which is fairly tough to follow along. we should get together and talk more about this sometime.

She didn't reply to that message. I think it's because she just got broken up with. Now we're talking about. I really like this girl because 1. She's into history like I am. 2. She's drop dead gorgeous. 3. She's really cool. Sometimes when I'm talking to her, I feel like I'm not saying the right things. Should I get over that, and just be myself? If she doesn't like what I say, then good riddance?