"I'll think about it" Shit test?

Shohn64 · 2012-03-29T14:20:56+00:00

I always respond with "When you're through thinking, say yes." Usually gets a laugh.

(When you're through thinking, say yes is the name of Yellowcard's new album, they are playing this huge concert on campus in a few weeks, city is abuzz about it... So, it's topical, but you might not be able to use it because it is localized/situational)

ARealSocialIdiot · 2012-03-29T15:02:48+00:00

For the record, these kinds of specific situational question should go in /r/askseddit instead of here.

And no, it's not a shit test. She doesn't want to give you a straight answer because she isn't terribly interested or you haven't given her enough reason to be invested in saying yes. Take it easy and if you should get a chance to talk to her again, do it, but don't concern yourself over whether it happens or not. Outcome independence, my friend.

Marsupian · 2012-03-29T14:52:33+00:00

I don't really think it's a shit test. I think she either can't decide and wants to think about it or she doesn't want to say no but also doesn't want to hang out.

btw. Work relationships are almost always a really bad idea.

simpleseddit · 2012-03-29T15:40:44+00:00

Yeah man, I'm thinking she doesn't want to rock the work boat. Work relationships are a huge gamble. This is coming from someone that has been dating a co-worker for the last 7 months. It's risky as hell and even though this worked out, it's glaringly obvious to me now how bad this could turn out.

Plenty of other girls out there, trust me.

toledote · 2012-03-29T19:47:54+00:00

I defeated "I will think about this" double shit test as follows:

After walking home a girl (which was giving me obviously positive signals) I asked her for a date in 2 days, "I will think about this" (shit test I)

After one day I get on facebook some shitty-excuses why she cannot come, because she is meeting with some foreign-language conversation partner that normally is out of town and has no time. I call her immediately and in absolutely alpha and joking tone say things like

Me "My heart is broken! Cannot you just tell this guy you are going on a date or something?"

She is mostly very positive and flirty, except with a bit stiff reaction to this "having a date" joke.

Me "Ok, so lets meet in 3 days"

She "I will think about this" (shit test II)

Me "Ok, I assume, well, I HOPE this time you will make it" (that was beta, don't to this line. Better is "you think too much")

Me "And one more thing, are you going to this group meeting in two days? I'm looking forward to seeing you there"

She "Probably yes"

A day after the first missed date we are on the mentioned group meeting. I talk to her, kino her hair and when I have occasion for private talk while walking through the city I say

Me "So at what time do we meet at Monday?" (Monday is in 2 days)

She "<again more shit>"

Me "<some alpha joke she is committing serious crime by rejecting my offer>"

She "But you can always go with other girls"

Me "Right now, I don't care about other girls, I am interested only in you. But you have to make up your mind now, because I already have alternatives"

She "What alternatives?"

Me <silence>

She immediately locked her body language and tried to flirt with other guy. I walked her home and said "OK, we won't probably see each other soon, so see you sometime". She said "yap" and hugged me.

Then I waited 5 days and called her. Missed call. Wrote on facebook "I want to talk to you. Tell me when you will have time" She responded after about 2 hours "I am at my place, you can come in" I came and she was going for f-close.

Two important things to note:

she was suspecting me for being womanizer, thus I had to directly tell her I am interested only in her and the "alternatives" card sounded plausible to her.
she was leaving next day for 4 weeks after the day she invited me to her place.

UnderstandableEnigma · 2012-03-29T23:42:13+00:00

This is no different to the 'I'll think about it' you got from your parents when you asked to go to Disney Land when you were 8, it's a no.

D3l7a3ch0 · 2012-03-30T05:24:27+00:00

yes it is a bad idea, because whether it goes super or crappy, you have to see this person repeatedly. 2 rules: not on school nights, and don't mess with your allowance.

had I been beamed into your body at that moment, my response would be a quizzical expression and,"you can say no, you know. ...it's ok."

Plasstik · 2012-03-29T21:42:00+00:00

"Don't hurt yourself," with a smile.

Title	"I'll think about it" Shit test?
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Upvotes	20
Comments	22
Date	March 29, 2012 2:04 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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