I'm a big guy, now what?

TofuTofu · 2012-05-13T00:40:04+00:00

Dude, you have a body most guys would kill for. Taking up space is so alpha.

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ftg38/overweight_men_of_seddit_this_is_for_you/

Read that. I'm almost as big as you are and I get laid like a rockstar. It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal.

breadrising · 2012-05-13T01:41:22+00:00

Get into /r/fitness, keep trying to make change and it will come to you.

But honestly, I've seen dudes your size (very tall, bigger) get serious attention from girls just because of how they carried themselves. They were always fun, confident as hell, laid back, could make people life, and seriously didn't give a fuck if they were getting ladies or just chilling with the guys.

Also some girls seriously love big dudes; someone who makes them feel small, safe, and someone who looks like they're always fucking in charge.

Sidenote: Go into the night with an open night. You'll get rejections. A lot of them. That's how people work; they put up their barriers and someone who is completely new to this stuff stands out. But the more you go out, the more you keep at it, and the more you just focus on interacting with people and having a great time no matter what, the more you'll improve. This stuff takes experience; so just keep getting out there. If you get 100 rejections this week, whatever. If you get 30 numbers this week, whatever. Just keep going, keep improving, and keep being awesome.

Good luck dude

2012-05-12T22:45:55+00:00

You're body is perfectly fine dude. Unless you're aiming to pick up cake-faces as shallow as kiddy pools, you're body shouldn't be an issue.

CrankRED · 2012-05-13T02:08:08+00:00

im about the same size as you. 6 foot 3' and 275.

i worry about my weight and body too. i happen to like thick girls which is great becuase they want a man who makes them feel little.

but self confidence can take you much further. why? its an indicator of past successes that is difficult to fake.

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-05-13T02:55:38+00:00

Go big.

stuckit · 2012-05-13T03:50:14+00:00

Youre hardly fat. Although Im not a big fan of your outfit.

Think of yourself as a charming, happy, force of nature. Stand tall. Walk tall. Think of it as projecting your self beyond your body. Chin up. Shoulders back. No slouching, no hunching over. Youre a big dude, own whatever space youre in.

Check your gait. Dont walk to fast. look for a smooth, even gait. Hell, have a dancer( an attractive female dancer works well) watch you walk and give you pointers. yes, you have to do odd stuff to work on yourself some times. Knuckles face forward when you stand or walk. Look at Alpha world leaders. Thats how they stand and walk.

bluehat9 · 2012-05-14T13:49:40+00:00

I just want to say you are not fat. You might be slightly overweight for your height, which you can "fix" by eating a little better and working out. You're a big guy, but you aren't fat. There is nothing wrong with being big, in fact many women like that you can comfort them, protect them, and grab things off the shelf for them. Plus stand up 69.

tripilldee · 2012-05-15T02:28:07+00:00

I'll be honest. Your body is amazing. I'm a 25 yr. old female and I definitely would try to talk to you if I saw you. Don't worry about your body. It's amazing. Build your self-confidence up. One great qualities a man can possess is confidence. Not cocky but a man who is sure of himself and goes after what he wants. Be yourself and be happy. Your body is nothing to worry about. Hope this helps. You did say you wanted a females opinion.

Woetren · 2012-05-12T22:57:57+00:00

Why not hit the gym and be a ripped 6'4" dude? You have a big frame, girls like taller dudes, use it to your advantage. Seddit is also about self-transformation, so if you aren't comfortable with the way you look, change it.

fires_a_blazing · 2012-05-13T11:12:29+00:00

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fires_a_blazing · 2012-05-14T01:14:38+00:00

Dude, you're so money and you don't even know it. You see you have these claws...

Haha anyway your game is a much bigger determinant of whether you'll get laid or not. Yeah looks matter a bit, but being self conscious about it gets you nowhere and when your charisma is halfway decent looks start to matter very little. Go out a lot, hit up girls hard for a year and work on your weight at the same time. The point is consistency man, keep at it. http://youtu.be/jk6g3XEtsoo?t=5m20s

booklover- · 2012-05-14T01:40:55+00:00

as a girl, i'm much more attracted to your shape than I would be to some skinny guy. girls, the ones i know anyway, want guys who they know could defend them (even though that's hardly necessary anymore). it's psychological

Title	I'm a big guy, now what?
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Date	May 12, 2012 10:31 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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