I'm in love with a stripper (texting / facetime'ing game)

yumyumgivemesome · 2014-04-13T15:23:20+00:00

I'm 31

You're not really considering settling down with a stripper, are you?

From everything you're saying you want this chick for validation. Bad way to go, dude.

One word: Demographics. I'm guessing you haven't read Models.

HappyJerk · 2014-04-13T14:57:40+00:00

Jesus Christ. She lives 200 miles away? She's 23 and you're 31?? Why are you even thinking about her?

You don't want none of this.

sdanger73 · 2014-04-13T16:10:23+00:00

Seems like you're trying to play both sides of the fence. You have a good life don't throw it away on a stripper. Have fun but don't catch feelings.

JaNOMaly · 2014-04-13T16:42:48+00:00

You're not going to pull that off. You have already shown that you're not the fun partier guy. If you change now she'll see you being submissive to her.

Instead determine what she values in men cross reference that with your own strengths and emphasize them. Her saying she doesn't want your life is kind of a good sign For you since you're really only trying to have fun.

DafarheezyRises · 2014-04-13T16:26:47+00:00

Don't listen to the top voted (happy)jerk in the replies. Here's my takeaway:

You did not get a lapdance, yet you still got her #, went on a date and made out with her. Mad respect man. At least this shows that she definitely likes you (she even said she had a crush on you?!) and not just trying to hustle you like most strippers do. I've had a thing for strippers too and even if it's a short and open relationship I would not mind dating one myself.

When you go back home you need to go on another date with her, I would do it as soon as you can. Don't let your relationship or her interest die out with texting and facetime (unless it's more than small talk and you are having fun) but you should really go on a date with her again and do what do you that made her like you in the first place. Don't be afraid to escalate the hangout and go for more than a makeout this time.

What to respond to "I don't want your life"... I don't think that line was as negative as you are thinking. Don't let it bother you at all (I mean dude, she is a stripper... you have a normal job). I might reply w/ something like... "yeah, sometimes I wish I could sit on dude's lap for a living too"

Don't try hard to qualify yourself to her. If you don't want to come off as a boring chump... don't tell her what you are doing EVERYDAY. Give yourself some distance and let her wonder what you're doing. Telling her everyday that you're at work, or at home, or just doing something normal/boring makes her think that's all you do... give yourself some distance

leftajar · 2014-04-13T17:30:49+00:00

You really, really want to fuck this girl, so you're rationalizing that you actually like her.

She doesn't want to date you -- she already told you your life sucks! (Btw the appropriate response to that is, "k." And then go no-contact.)

Here's a serious suggestion: buy a hot prostitute. Rail her, get it out of your system, and then forget about this girl.

Gentlelamb · 2014-04-13T18:33:19+00:00

So first of feel free to accept my upvote, not because you deserve it but because the guys here seem to be giving you way more hate than you deserve. I would not say you are stupid, just acting and thinking through your emotions with is common for someone with less experience in the seduction field.

And now to the tough love:

Let's set aside the fact the there is an 8 year difference between the two of you and the fact that she is a stripper. Are you really ready to quit your job and move home to take a chance on this "love"? (Seems obvious but I'm gonna be a nice guy and spell this one out for you, N+O!). It seems to me as you have fallen for the oneitis and so I urge you to snap the fuck out if it. There are others, literally millions.

My best advice is try to sleep with her if you think you can separate your emotions, otherwise, back the fuck off and move on.

nainamorbmud · 2014-04-13T18:47:31+00:00

Sorry dude, but i personally disagree with you making any attempts to get at her. I've read your responses to some peoples comments and you are doing this for the wrong reasons. (Whether you think it or not) Your emotions are already invested in her, otherwise you wouldn't have posted this on the internet. You're getting desperate. If you think getting a quick lay from a stripper is gonna make you "The Man" then maybe you should re-evaluate the way you think. Sorry for being so blunt. This is my understanding. At 31, you shouldn't even consider looking for someone at 23, nonetheless a stripper.

Is the only reason you want to pursue her because she's giving you attention? Aside from being a stripper, she's 23. No offense but at that age, decision making isn't their best quality (consider her job title right now)

In the end you are still going to do what you want. No matter what we say. So good luck.

Title	I'm in love with a stripper (texting / facetime'ing game)
Author	yumyumgivemesome
Upvotes	0
Comments	20
Date	April 13, 2014 2:48 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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