Im insecure physically and mentally. How do I stop this?

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-09-07T11:07:01+00:00

So you have a "flaw", maybe you are "bald" for example and u r thinking "omg, i hate my hair, how do i hide it so women won't dislike me :((((". Dude, attraction isn't about proving your adequacy, seeking their approval, proving your worth to women or trying to convince them that u r good enough or to give you a chance to impress them.

So, it's not a woman's job to make you feel understood or make u feel good about being bald. SHe is not there to soothe you and tell u "it's ok little boy". You need to be comfortable in your own skin specially when she brings up ur "flaws" or as i like to call them "quirks".

The main problem is not being bald, the real bigger problem is hating yourself for being bald. Feeling ashamed, feeling uncomfortable about it and feeling like you are lesser for it. Not accepting yourself as uare and hoping she accepts u first, so you can finally give yourself permission to stop cringing when you see your scalp in the mirror and feel good about yourself.

That which you can't hide forever, better to use it in your favour as part of your charm. Confidnece works better with women when they feel like u don't have objective reasons to be that confident, when they feel that you should be insecure because of your flaws, and yet your actions and demeanor show that you are not insecure at all and fully accept yourself as you are and thus are untouchable.

So, instead of shrinking when she teases u about being bald, you lean into it. You own it like it was your idea all along. You joke about it: "did you see the areodynamic design of my beutiful head?" as you touch your hair with absolute self-admitation or “God blessed me and said: 'Let him shine.' And here we are.” Any example that shows u r not ashamed or defensive, but are perfectly fine with your baldness will work.

Cuz the point isn't to convince her u are flawless. It's to show her that her opinion doesn’t shake u. That u're not seeking approval or waiting for someone to tell u that u’re enough. Women don’t want a man who needs permission to feel good about himself. They want a man who leads with self-ownership so grounded, it’s magnetic.

When you stop hating your flaws and instead brag about them like they are the next best thing, they stop being flaws and become quirks instead. Because it's not what u have, it's how u carry it. You may not have control over your genes, but you have control in how you choose to act with the cards you were given.

Whatever you can't hide forever, you better learn to turn it into part of your charm. When u do, you are far more likely to get more women as a result.

If you want to work on your interactions with women to have more dates or how to learn to have absolute confidence without vague shit like "just be confident bro", then just read this book i wrote. It will change the way you view yourself and women forever for the best.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-09-07T11:23:08+00:00

Do things you're afraid of.

Perfect_Reception864 · 2025-09-07T12:22:55+00:00

Go to the gym and hit the weights hard. It'll boost your testosterone, release endorphins and make you more confident in your appearance once the gains start coming in.

noblesixninja · 2025-09-07T16:08:38+00:00

Don’t stop it just keep building on it. Everyone has insecurities and weaknesses it’s human nature. If you feel physical weak eat, sleep, and lift. If you feel mentally weak learn new skills, face obstacles in your life, and solve problems that are giving you hell. It will all reflect back into your personality.

Edit: but don’t ever stop, every failure produces a seed for success.

Acrobatic-Poem-6480 · 2025-09-07T16:46:28+00:00

Find your passion in life and pursue what you love with honesty. Join various interest-based groups in real life. Do sport that suits you. Women will come on their own, and then your height or anything else won’t occupy your mind.

epimpstyle · 2025-09-07T20:16:13+00:00

There are always girls who aren't taller than you, no matter how tall you are > those girls need to be your "target"

They say "a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step", so if you start today, and you'll take another step tomorrow, and so on.... sooner or later, it's literally impossible not to achieve your goal if you work toward it every single day.

teloeed · 2025-09-08T04:45:34+00:00

Counseling/therapy

xarz44 · 2025-09-08T15:02:27+00:00

Start weightlifting, a martial art and begin with low effort cardio

Title	Im insecure physically and mentally. How do I stop this?
Author	HF_Twat2004
Upvotes	21
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Date	September 7, 2025 10:47 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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