I posted this as a reply to someone as they were asking how I went from someone who didn't get laid much at all, to someone who got laid most weeks and it seemed to resonate with a few people;
....... But to answer you question, for me it was volume. I actually started getting laid quite a lot because I MASSIVELY increased my volume. I went from years of never getting laid on nights out (and maybe making 4 approaches per night on them nights) to getting laid most weekends, but making at least 40-50 approaches per night
My approach to lay ratio never really changed much. Learning game didn't really effect my approach to lay rate (Maybe I already have enough natural skills to close the girls who were 'gettable'). I mean, end of the day, if you open a girl and you're not her type at all and there's no attraction there, your 'game' is irrelevant.
But because i massively increased my approach amount I was able to 'find' the girls who liked me
So BEFORE, i'd go out on a friday. Make 4 approaches. They'd all say 'we're not interested. leave us alone' on the open for example. I'd go out on Saturday, 1 girl was maybe friendly but she'd say I wasn't her type if I tried to flirt. The other 3 would be rude and not talk back for example.
That pattern might happen for months and months in a row. Never getting laid
Then I decided to go all out, and i'd approach more like 40 girls per night
Maybe 25 girls would be hostile and a clear 'no' when I approached. 10 would be friendly and social but not 'attracted' despite running game (teasing, pushpull, coldreads etc etc).
And then out of the next 5 (maybe all WERE receptive to flirting) i'd find one I could actually take home, and this meant I was now a guy who was actually getting laid most weekends he went out.
I built a high 'lay count', and my friends started to see me as a 'stud' and a 'ladies man' lol. (people tend to only see the result and not the 'grind')
So this assumes you can beat approach anxiety, live in a city where you can approach non stop and still be invisible - and of course the more you max out your fundamentals (gym, fashion, hair etc etc) the easier time you'll have.
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