Inexperienced hook-up-er

MrSelfImprovement · 2015-05-02T04:01:39+00:00

The more sex you have, the less your first time matters. But if it really means that much to you, use your new skills to try to find a girlfriend instead of random hookups. If you want my opinion, just get it over with. There are so many potential memories you could be losing by saving yourself for something "special".

MistaFANG · 2015-05-02T04:00:44+00:00

Do what feels natural. You're gonna fuck up, and that's okay. Own it, and learn from it. It's not gonna matter a year from now, shit, it probably won't matter a week from now.

Brute force it. Do it as much as you can and learn as much as you can. Try new things everytime and see what works. Learn to read body language. Have fun, be sensual, watch porn to get an idea (but don't try to BE a porn star. They're actors, remember that).

jasonr686 · 2015-05-02T04:51:02+00:00

Realistically, sex isn't a big deal, there's no reason to wait for that perfect time - there is no perfect time.

The more sex you have, the better you get at it (generally) - and then you realize that hooking up with different girls that they all have their own preferences/weird quirks about sex. What's normal for one girl may be taboo for another.

Careful about touching her butthole!

Checkerszero · 2015-05-02T07:48:02+00:00

I lost mine from a Tinder match at 19. She was insane. I do not regret any of the sex. Don a dom and get in there, it doesn't need to be overly special. If they're as accommodating as you it'll always be fun.

mams1724 · 2015-05-02T12:00:52+00:00

I'll probably one of people on here that say wait.

The reason I say wait is wait until YOU (keyword here is: YOU) are comfortable enough with whatever decision you want. Wait until you're sure you want and you are sure you are willing to give something that's yours to someone. I agree that Virginity isn't special but your time with someone is.

Basically what I'm saying is that pick someone who is up to snuff to be in your life whether it be sexual or not. Don't let yourself just say "I'm going to lose it to this drunk girl at this party" just cause.

Edit: That's just my two cents, It's not necessarily the truth by no means but it's just an opinion.

Nexus2045 · 2015-05-03T15:25:53+00:00

Not experienced here, but did lose my virginity at 24 after having dealt with a host of anxiety and insecurity issues surrounding not having lost it, friends around me all being experienced, WTF is wrong with me, etc.

I lost it to a hooker/escort after months of debate with myself. I also subsequently did have my first time with a girl in my social circle though it didn't pan out to a relationship. I consider that one luck to this day.

The buildup to the sex can be nerve wracking as hell. Depending on your ego and self investment it can freeze and render you shitless. You can post and read all the threads you want here or imagine how itll go but realistically I can tell you the actual experience will be less dramatic. Itll be messy and somewhat "meh" in a way. It won't feel that great, and you won't think like you climbed Mt. Everest after for more than a day. Your confidence might spike up a while but afterwards go back to normal. This is from the POV of a rather shy beta in recovery.

Til then, implement whatever strategy you can to not fap. Workout often to keep your base testosterone levels high. Then comes the acknowledgement that you're fine, and what you lack is just an illusion. It doesn't really matter.

RiseAboveRuin · 2015-05-02T04:41:37+00:00

Nike: just do it

Nupox · 2015-05-02T12:13:57+00:00

I would just be patient. There is no rush. Find someone you care about and cares about you. Someone you can muddle through the early mistake with.

alwaysintosomethin · 2015-05-02T12:19:33+00:00

Losing your virginity is so overhyped, man. sure it's a great feeling when it finally happens, but not a whole lot really changes, other than that you'll wanna go out and have more sex. You'll feel an afterglow for a bit but nothing else changes. I don't really have any advice to give you other than to keep pursuing women and i assure you your time will come along.

Title	Inexperienced hook-up-er
Author	The_Alpacapocalypse
Upvotes	29
Comments	10
Date	May 2, 2015 2:55 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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