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[–]nouniquenamesleft2 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
3 and 4
[–]heysoundude 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly this. I still get the occasional text from a woman I was with (but who wasn’t with me) almost a decade ago around my birthday every few years. She tries to conceal that it’s her with changing numbers, but her tone is unique, and when I ask her simply if her message to me means she has decided what she wants and that is me, she disappears like a puff of smoke again. If we ran into each other like OP did with his example, I don’t know what I would do, how I would handle the situation. It didn’t end particularly well (I’m working on that still since then, and I feel like I’ve improved somewhat significantly), so I don’t know if I would challenge her or let her down nicely/easily or try to utterly destroy her as I felt I was at that time and probably still carry lingering after effects if I’m being truthful… Get the poison out of your life, brother. It’s not always a good idea -if it’s even possible- to go back. Some bridges are meant to be burned.
[–]kbecel -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's 36 and wants to settle down? Get a pair, seduce that woman but don't make it an LTR. Do not make it an LTR!
She's in the Epiphany phase where she just wants kids. Pump and dump. Not worth your time
[–]TheSunshineMan 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
So it didn't work the first 3 times - so now you're thinking of a 4th?
C'mon.. why are you even considering this.
[–]Hmmkey 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Haha the first 2 times!, I know she is no relationship material for me, but even though I date many girls now, the sex was amazing. I’m not willing to break my principles to be with her, so basically I just want to have sex with her and the question for me is since she ended it 2 times, if I still see her, am I just putting aside my ego or really giving away my power. I can def see the toxicity and my opportunistic angle here. But somehow I also feel like if I would Manage to have her as a fuckbuddy and I would Manage to not prioritize her again (not in a vengeful childish way) I would prove to myself that I grew from it and I got my power back, don’t know if it makes sense or if I’m just finding an excuse 😆
[–]TheSunshineMan 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
where i hopefully dont fall back in love again,
This is my only concern.
[–]Hmmkey 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Our concern, we are a team here
[–]finallypickup 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd definitely go with option 3 only if you think it won't fuck you up mentally. Like, if you can really just fuck her and not get invested into having hope for a future relationship with her. Only you know that. Then I'd tell her that and say you're pretty much dtf but nothing else. If she runs it's good because clearly this is controversial for you but if she is receptive it's also good because you get laid
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