I recently read an interview with Susan Cain, author of a book that talks about introversion and what the behavioral differences between intro- and extroverts are.

Here's a bit that I found very interesting:

One of them is the sensitivity to stimulation. There’s a whole host of studies that seem to suggest that introverts, on the level of the brain and the nervous system, are just more reactive to stimulation of all kinds. And so that’s why they function at their best and are the most energized in these quieter environments, because that’s the level of stimulation that is right for their nervous system. I think that has pretty profound implications for how we set up our social institutions.

The other thing that we know is that our brains see things called reward networks. These are the parts of our brains that get us excited and jazzed about pursuing rewards. It could be anything from striking a business deal to striking up a conversation with an attractive person. It seems as if extroverts have stronger reward networks than introverts do. Introverts have them also, but extroverts’ tend to be a little stronger. And when your reward networks are activated, it tends to be accompanied by a whole host of really joyful emotions. I call them champagne bubble emotions. It’s a kind of exuberance. And it’s probably this, often, that makes extroverts really delightful company. So that’s the lovely side of extroversion. When you’re really oriented towards rewards in that way, what they’re starting to show in the lab is that you’re less likely to see other stuff coming your way, including warning signals that things may not be working out.

And so introverts tend to take a more balanced, more circumspect view of life around them.

I still think it's important for all men to take risks; that's really the bottom line. No thing is going to take away the fact that approaching women is scary, risky, and so on -- which is also what makes it appealing.

I don't want to focus too much on the neurochemistry that drives introversion and what makes them be who they are -- but at some level, it does shape the way they see and interact with the world. I prefer to look at that as a strength, but I just haven't explored too much into how I can leverage my own tendencies as an introvert to attract women -- both introverted and extroverted -- into my life.

For one, social scenes -- bars, parties, and settings that are highly energetic, socially speaking -- aren't those in which introverts will thrive, necessarily, unless something lowers the threshold for stimulation (alcohol, the introvert person knows everyone in the party, etc.). I myself am okay in parties and can talk with people alright, but after a while I find I wanna step out and breath. And call it a night. So I think the demographics must be adequate (coffee shops? libraries?) for me to be motivate myself to be out more.

But then I may want to meet extroverts too, because I wouldn't want to rule out a good match that happens to be an extrovert. So purely focusing on an exact set of women may work out but it also feels like I'm wanting to exert some set of rules that may be too limiting, in the sense that I'm filtering women who could be pretty cool.

So really, I'm just getting to start thinking about how introversion fits in with socializing and seduction. Men who are into seduction who have been at it for a while, and happen to be introverts -- what are your thoughts about all this?