Is it necessary to be funny?

themoor · 2012-12-24T14:09:51+00:00

If you want to attract a woman, outside of looks, dress, posture, and social proof, you need and must spike her emotions.

Humor is not the only way, but it is one of the best ways (others include forms of drama like outrage, sadness, empathy, curiosity, etc.).

Teasing--not insults--is a way to place yourself above her in terms of status. Women prefer men higher in status than them plus men who are confident. So, you must tease her and make her laugh. Don't do this all the time. There's a curve. Do it too much and your value to her will drop. Learn to drop well placed teases and occasional situational jokes.

So, yes, it is necessary. It is an important skill. Watch other guys do it and learn to see what works and what doesn't.

Final protip: Ignore her looks and think of her as your bratty little sister. This is a common refrain in "the community" but it works. Don't take her seriously about 85-90% of the time. Yes, it sounds counter-intuitive but a lot of seduction is.

salem2474 · 2012-12-24T14:55:09+00:00

Try an improv class. That will help you develop humour. Humour isn't so much smart remarks as noticing things about the situation and commenting on them in a funny way.

Teasing is part of seduction. Girls tease guys too. It's fun, and not insulting. You don't need to be fake about it normally, though you might have to be a bit fake at first while you develop your own style of teasing.

The_Music · 2012-12-24T18:24:13+00:00

Being funny is wonderfully helpful. As a short, average looking, skinny/not-muscly white guy, being funny gets me half-way there. Girls find attractive guys hot. But they also find clever guys hot. If you can make a girl laugh, you can probably at least get her on a date. And I mean LAUGH, not snicker because you did something childish or goofy.

What 'themoor' said sums it up perfectly.

Tease a girl. Act like she is chasing you, and she will start to. You don't even have to do a lot. Only when you notice the tides turning against your favor. Do it with little things. End the conversation first. Ask her to hold shit (compliance testing). If she's being boring, call her out.

"Say something interesting in the next 10 seconds, or else you're gonna be in trouble."

Also one someone mentioned to me ages ago here ALWAYS works. "Be good." I don't really know or care why, but it always seems to make a girl go all doe-eyed. Just look in their eyes, hold the gaze and say something like "Be good and I'll let you kiss me later." They usually go "Oh really? You'll LET me?". And I say "Yeah and it'll be be the best damn kiss you've ever had."

One time I said it, the girl just went quiet and started smiling. Then we made out.

Oh dear I've gone off topic.

july25 · 2012-12-25T10:01:04+00:00

Yes, very important, need to sell yourself to her by proving that you're funny through your witty anecdotes and life experiences, huge DHV. Forget about you being the buyer in the interaction and having self-esteem. Other methods include whipping out your massive dong.

Title	Is it necessary to be funny?
Author	Iwantgoodasses
Upvotes	4
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Date	December 24, 2012 12:48 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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