It seems to me, if we can break it down to essential facts that no one really acknowledges here.. dating is an extremely competitive thing with a lot of pressure. Men will be implored to mention their job (inevitable judgment from this) and talk about their ambitions, possibly their social life, and so on.

It seems there are many, many tests to pass and if you're a guy, you cannot fail a single one of them or it's over.

Nobody mentions this here, but it's true. It's not PC I guess, but I believe I speak the truth. Here's another one: date = search for high quality LTR material.

But what about the many guys who, for whatever reason, cannot hope to pass? I'm autistic for example and cannot handle expectations being thrust upon me, or the knowledge that I have to cater to someone's "standard" or whatever. In addition, I fail in all these ways anyhow.. no true career, no social circle, blah blah, so there's literally no reason to date. I'm not a high functioning guy, and I will not be, that's how it is for me.. I have to accept it.

So is there another way to find intimacy, or a relationship, without dating? I'm just curious