Is there a 'minimum bar' for self-esteem that you should meet before going out?

GoldenWarrior · 2012-05-30T22:31:25+00:00

I'd say the minimum is rock bottom, because you can only go up from there.

seekingagirl · 2012-05-30T21:35:21+00:00

Yes, there is. Work on improving yourself and once you realize how awesome you are, it'll become easier. If you don't do that first, you will fail so much that it'll compound the problem. Fix the underlying issues first and, like 4FF41R said, read the side bars (especially the part about INNER GAME). Good luck!

4FF41R · 2012-05-30T21:29:28+00:00

Only you can know the answer to your question, read the basics in the sidebar, continue following this board, read this great article: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/s9m4b/the_definitive_guide_to_confidence/

BUT, sooner or later you will have to go out there and live your life.

similarsounds · 2012-05-30T21:37:16+00:00

Surely 'going out' would get your self-esteem up once you begin to improve on your game, plus I wouldn't wait 2 months before working on your game so that you can get a leaner body or something. Just go out and work on anything you're self-conscious of at the same time.

phallic_audio · 2012-05-30T21:44:13+00:00

Just be prepared for everything. As a heads up, and a lot of folks from my local lair have told me this. You will crash and burn... hard. But you need to experience those in order to develop confidence. Just go out and have fun. Don't take the rejections personally. Its not you they are rejecting but your methods of communicating yourself.

Good luck brother :)

miles_v · 2012-05-31T19:29:33+00:00

Working on yourself is definitely important. However, I doubt it's too soon for you to go out and approach.

What's essential is that you get the goal setting right, especially if you don't have rock-solid self-esteem. If you go out with the idea that you need to get numbers, get dates, get laid and generally get every girls panties wet within two minutes, it will be a very frustrating experience.

However, if you begin by setting yourself a very small, very achievable goal and then slowly ramp it up from there, going out will be a confidence building experience.

If you struggle with AA, I recommend that you initially just set out to ask a random person for directions or for the time. Then ask a girl, then approach a girl and don't use time/directions as an excuse, etc. Your victory will simply be in doing the approach. Her reaction to it, whether or not you get a number or a date or whatever won't matter, initially.

Title	Is there a 'minimum bar' for self-esteem that you should meet before going out?
Author	techgnosis
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	May 30, 2012 9:13 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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