Is this a good conversation starter?

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-04-06T21:59:34+00:00

"I saw you yesterday" comes off pretty creepy and would make her think you came back to the store just to hit on her. "We would look cute together" is also pretty needy and creepy future projection onto a stranger. Keep in mind she is stuck there working and can't just walk away from you, so she may be polite and non-confrontational with her job on the line. You could briefly introduce yourself, but don't linger around. It's a place of business and she's getting paid to work there and answer questions about the store, not to flirt with customers.

Chiiiicckkeeennn · 2025-04-06T21:35:19+00:00

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-04-07T09:07:05+00:00

Awful lines.

Lead with statements instead. Look up elicitation.

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-04-07T21:32:46+00:00

“Hey can u help me find this product.”

It can work, but she will think u are actually looking for the product. It will be hard to transition to getting her number.

And any uncalibrated attempt can make u look insincere.

“Hey I saw u yesterday and I think we would look cute together, let’s go out”

It’s just creepy. Like she doesn’t know u. Very weird.

“Can u help me find your phone number”. It’s cheesy. Cheesy openers don’t work.

Here are improved versions of your openers.

“Hey. U seem like someone who knows her <veggies, sauces, fruits or whatever u are looking for>. Can u help me find this product”

Basically the additional sentence is a tease, a flirt. Like why would u say something like that? She will feel subconsciously that u are flirting and it will be easier to transition of asking her for number.

“Hey. Those shoes look good on you. I bet u are that type of person who likes to go out a lot.”

It’s a compliment like in your example. But has totally different framing. Instead of being creepy u seem confident.

The additional sentence is just logical conclusion. Basically, it makes her guessing whether u told her compliment because u like her or because it was just an observation.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-04-07T06:24:21+00:00

See my post on approaching women. Within are all the principles when it comes to approaching women, one of those principles is to not have canned openers.

You seem like a newbie. Don't even bother overthinking it and wing it for your first 30 approaches. That will do you way better than learning any theory.

klogro8 · 2025-04-06T22:18:30+00:00

You’re overthinking this way too much. Stop rehearsing lines like you're auditioning for her attention. You don’t need pickup lines—just a spine and a smile. Walk up, be yourself, and say hi! You’ve already talked to her, so there’s no need to overcomplicate it. Have a normal conversation, then ask if she wants to grab coffee or something.

Is this a good conversation starter?

1. hey can you help me find this product?

2. Hey I saw you yesterday and I think we would look cute together, let’s go out!

3. In a photo that I would edited “can you help me find your phone number?

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Title	Is this a good conversation starter?
Author	delicious_a_vocado
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Comments	21
Date	April 6, 2025 9:33 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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