is this jealousy? why it hurts so much? how do I overcome it?

ermahgerdafancyword · 2018-12-13T13:32:39+00:00

I think you should think about why it is that the amount of attention and/or sex someone else is getting affects you emotionally. Answering that question should help to be rational about that feeling and getting into a better place emotionally. First of all, are feeling insecure, envious or jealous? Is it that you feel you get less attention from other people than her, and the discrepancy makes you question your self worth? Is it that you have feelings for her and want her for yourself? Or is it that you want her to only want you, because that would make you feel confident?

Generally, your goal should be to be to be confident and well-adjusted. Confident and well-adjusted people are not affected by the amount of sex and attention other other people have, because that information doesn't threaten them. They are concerned with their own life and happiness and therefore can afford to be happy for others or distance themselves from those who are a bad influence. Concentrate on yourself, work on your sense of self-worth and realise that its independent from the amount of sex and attention you're getting.

As always, humanise the girl and try to see her perspective. It sounds to me like she was feeling insecure that you did not contact her for a few days and telling you about her many other options was her being defensive. While immature, that is human. The important thing to realise is how silly it is to feel insecure about something that she did because she herself felt insecure in the first place. Women's sexuality comes with its own societal stigmatas and hang-ups, so try and get away from a mind set that makes you feel like she has power over you. We all have power over each other and should, in my opinion, try to build each other up not put each other down to avoid being hurt.

Lastly, if contact with her makes you feel bad about yourself, you can always stop seeing her and find someone who is after the same things you are.

One_Insanity · 2018-12-13T13:02:24+00:00

To me this looks like basic issues of self confidence more so than jealousy. Seems like you feel like you're the bottom of the barrel. On the list of 50 dudes that dick this girl you feel like you barely made the cut at number 50.

You're not as good looking, not as successful and not the best lover. Well... you can improve the first to a certain degree. While the other two? The sky's the limit. Assuming you're not dealing with a 3 incher or something like that you can be an awesome lover.

Also, on the other hand stop focusing on her. You're hooking up. It's not like you're in a relationship and she's reminiscing about all this amazingly successful penis she's had inside of her. Even better, go hook up more. Bang more girls. And work on your lover game. Level up your foreplay, your passion, your kissing, eating and licking and last but not least your pump game. Forget about the nut. You're there to bang for as long as the girl can handle it.

Start fanning the flames of ambition. You've just started your journey so don't expect to be the best ever. The snowball effect is very much real as long as you don't get bogged down by nonsense like this. It's all about you and your journey. You're taking the girls for the proverbial and literal ride on the path of awesomeness.

And if she affects you this much then draw a line and step away from it to focus on bedding more girls. I mean honestly it may be hard because you have a very specific type of job. Fucking cabin crew. I'd rather shovel shit than do that.

Title	is this jealousy? why it hurts so much? how do I overcome it?
Author	ancoree
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	December 13, 2018 7:24 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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