It’s not her. It’s you bro.

MakeSail · 2021-05-08T15:59:42+00:00

There is no universally attractive male. I have found emotionally mature women have a very specific type of man they are attracted to, and what women find attractive is very diverse.

For, example, I could be at a venue with many eligible women, and find that none are interested in flirting with me. Then at the next venue, I could have three who are flirting and very interested, and if I really match a woman's "type" she may approach me first.

I wanted to talk about the concept or rules in the "dating game". What I have found over the years is there are no rules, and what you do as a man depends on who she is as a person.

Altruistic-Wasabi-20 · 2021-05-08T21:16:20+00:00

Here's the thing: I hear a lot of guys saying 'I'm a super good guy' or something along these lines. Unfortunately for you, there are guys with good careers and good looks who are also good guys. Just the way it is.

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2021-05-08T18:32:58+00:00

I’m struggling big time. I want nothing more than to go balls to the wall with my self development but every single f***ing day there is crap getting in the way. Whether it’s work or family obligations, or a crucial tool I don’t yet possess. It’s maddening...

zeroff89 · 2021-05-09T00:24:03+00:00

Most of the time when a guy makes the statement blaming the female and refusing to take ownership of his own short comings its due to his insecurities and emotional immaturity.

In long term relationships there’s a power dynamic that needs to be maintained

I watched a video by Todd V dating earlier today describing this power dynamic and he went a bit further to introduce another dynamic balance between “emotional” and “logical”

It is important to remember that the system is set up for you to get out of it what you put into it, and the results aren’t immediate because it takes time and practice for you to tune the system and techniques to personally fit you

gbizzle2 · 2021-05-08T10:26:53+00:00

Actually if you work on yourself well enough they will gravitate to you especially if you push pull.

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sadboycuzact · 2021-05-08T23:07:30+00:00

you just gotta be confident. Dont be shy to talk to anyone

Kaniwai · 2021-05-09T02:57:13+00:00

Wow just listening to you guys is very interesting.

But I think I’m a phenomenal woman and probably a 8 if I put it on a scale

Can I tell you a secret of what we are thinking .

A lot of guys only want sex with different girls so he can say he’s slept with a lot of woman.

They think we don’t know their fuck boys . But we know and some girls want that we call it FWB.

And there’s girls just like them and just want sex and will get it.

Just like anything equal rights guys get used too.

But if I’m been serious a real woman doesn’t or isn’t asking for much.

She wants a man who is honest , kind , and is his own man. And your right a job.

Looks are important but it’s secondary. We want to be loved honored and respected.

And we want to show you the same. Every woman wants her man to look at her across the room and sees only her.

We want love just as much as the men . Thing is we all have to stop playing games and be confident in who we are and what we want.

I’ve been single for awhile but I’m willing to wait until that right man comes.

And that doesn’t mean I stand by and wait if I see someone I’m interested I I’m going to approach him now.

I decided recently I’m not only going to wait I’m going to put my self out there.. And if that means asking someone out I’m doing it

I going out of my comfort zone. The worst thing that can happen is I grow and learn from it

Best thing that can happen is I find my person.

I wish you guys luck in what your looking for. And there’s nothing g wrong in doing you!

skaryhunk · 2021-05-08T19:41:18+00:00

Just be attractive to women, follow your interests while making money at it, and don’t be a creep. Sex will fall in your lap.

TheOverdoser · 2021-05-09T11:19:24+00:00

I have deleted tinder for the last time. I'm 34, and haven't had any luck anyway. And if I did. I would have to actually try, and sacrifice my masculinity in the process...and all my projects.. their all oversocialiizdd and that don't fit my persona. Lots have kids or wants kid and play house all their life. The bad ass broad I want won't be chillen on tinder lol

Proud_Drawer5077 · 2021-05-09T15:46:57+00:00

I can only speak for myself, but as a woman, here is the basic list of what I’m looking for from a man

intelligence and wit. Its a major turn on if guys can handle a conversation and make a girl laugh
financial independence, not necessarily rich but someone who is a potential partner in this aspect of relationship esp if you’re headed towards a long term relationship
presentable looks. Not really looking for the best looking guy because I don’t think I’m much of a pretty girl myself, but enough to make me feel physically attracted
emotional maturity. Though this one would take time to be determined, women want men who wont take our concerns for granted. You want to be in a relationship? Deal with your woman’s issues as much as you want her to deal with yours

zeroff89 · 2021-05-09T23:30:13+00:00

u/Bizarro- was that one chick that was in here trying to pick a fight with everyone?

Title	It’s not her. It’s you bro.
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Date	May 8, 2021 8:12 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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