I've been having trouble asking for numbers

oodbot9000 · 2015-02-16T09:45:50+00:00

"Hey, I really like speaking with you but I have to go; give me your number so we can keep this going."

Or you can do the more bold thing and straight ask her out: "Sorry, I have to go but I want to continue our talk over a drink sometime, maybe next week. Write your number down."

Never ask them for their numbers. Always tell them you want their number, then hand them your phone. I get rejected far less when my phone is already out and it's staring the girl in the face.

Never be scared of rejection. It happens to everyone. Shrug it off and move on.

Throwaway_d · 2015-02-16T14:53:21+00:00

I really think the fear of asking for numbers is like approach anxiety - the only way to get over it is to keep doing it. I often ask girls for numbers even when I don't want them, just to make sure Im never afraid to ask.

Here's the thing: you don't need to worry about getting rejected. If the girl doesn't want to give you her number, she will either give you a fake number or say she has a boyfriend. They will very rarely say no.

mjb1225 · 2015-02-16T17:15:26+00:00

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youngpua · 2015-02-16T17:23:08+00:00

I'll wait until I've managed to create a high point in the interaction. Where it feels like it's just us, and there's a fun, somewhat sexy vibe between us (in night game a very sexy vibe). The reason this is when I ask for the number is because I'd like to see her again so much, that I'm confident in saying I want to, I feel I NEED to.

So shortly after this first little mutual feeling of attraction and connection, I'll say "We should go out sometime." Possibly with an 'I think' before, possibly with a 'what do you say?' after. But if it's possible I like to just make it a declaration, it's just more dominant. And again I'm confident enough to be like that because I'm in a moment where I REALLY want her.

When she says yes (yay), I'll take out my phone, and there's really not much game strategy going on at this point, I might just open the dial pad and hand her the phone, I might stand to her side and ask for her to say the digits and whats her last name. It's not game at all really it's just collecting the number I don't overthink it.

So after that I'll continue to communicate with her, I think it helps to stop flakes. I just feel like she's more likely to remember me if the last thing I do is kiss her,or make her laugh... than if the last thing I do is hit a 'save' button. I prefer not to do an "I have to go" close for this reason, but sometimes you have to actually leave and I'll employ them there.

seducer4real · 2015-02-16T18:54:15+00:00

Keep rehearsing 'whats your number?'. Rehearse it all the time. Write it down 100 times. Keep doing this.

Why:?

When we are nervous our brain tends to use the most rehearsed information in our mind. The last thing it is going to use is something you just read online. So even if you're nervous, you will be able to pull this off.

Title	I've been having trouble asking for numbers
Author	mjb1225
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	February 16, 2015 6:11 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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