"Just be yourself"

windowtothesoul · 2013-07-08T03:11:47+00:00

How philosophical.

The meaning I've always took away from 'be yourself' was to stop over-thinking and start doing.

First steps first, you want to try and figure out what you want - out of life, this sub, and everything. Then you can start acting in manners to get what you want. As to how you figure out what you want, try things. Experiment. You'll figure it out.

puaCurveBall · 2013-07-08T05:59:59+00:00

People are "not themselves" by acting how they think others want them to act, rather than how they want to act themselves.

However, maybe you suck. This is a serious possibility, and it is why a lot of guys suck with women.

So take a strong look at yourself, figure out whether quality women would really be attracted to you, and if not, figure out what you can do to change that.

Most guys after a year or more in the "game" are way better and more awesome men than when they started.... So I would focus on making a better "you", than simply being yourself.

NaturalAFC · 2013-07-08T03:37:29+00:00

Good advice, but poorly worded. What it means to convey, is don't have this different persona when you talk to women. Be the same person you always are, but be comfortable with who you are. Become the best version of yourself.

On a sidenote: you'd probably like /r/Psychonaut.

Fudgeworth · 2013-07-08T05:41:35+00:00

Sometimes your current state of being isn't working. By state I mean everything about you: your body, where you live, the people in your life, what you do with your spare time, etc. If the way you're living isn't yielding results "just be yourself" is bad in the sense that it encourages the status quo.

Sometimes you need to make changes and change yourself. What you change is up to you. I like to experiment by refraining from doing things and trying new things as well.

kingcal · 2013-07-08T03:50:36+00:00

Do things to amuse yourself, not impress women. Pickup should be fun. Don't be stressed or worried about how people perceive you. Do goofy shit, say ridiculous stuff, whatever. Your goal should be to have a good time, not get everyone to love you.

bl1y · 2013-07-08T11:38:41+00:00

Mark Manson does a great job discussing this in Models. The basic idea is that many of us suppress ourselves. We hold back our opinions and fight our instincts, instead focusing on just being nice and agreeable.

choc_is_back · 2013-07-08T17:04:30+00:00

Useful way to interpret it: "just be as relaxed during conversations with women as you would be with friends."

Harmful way to interpret it: "don't try to change your life even if you are not satisfied with (aspects of) it."

Jiujitsuismygf · 2013-07-08T20:32:16+00:00

if you suck, then don't be yourself

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-07-08T03:48:52+00:00

Where did you get this "be yourself" crap? From a women's magazine?

Pretty much all of us tried to be ourselves but we were not presenting our good qualities in ways that connect with women, let alone seduce them.

You can be yourself once you're in a relationship.

Title	"Just be yourself"
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Date	July 8, 2013 3:05 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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