Just got braces, any advice on getting over them?

2012-08-09T08:03:18+00:00

I got braces a year ago at 16 and I'm going to have them when I start University. I'm also 5 foot 6, half Asian and wear glasses. Time for some tough love here man. I felt the same until I realised that my braces were just an excuse for me not achieving the results that I wanted to see girls. I look like the nerdiest motherfucker in existence. I haven't let that stop me. I own my stereotype, crack Asian, small dick and nerd jokes all the time and pretty soon people forget that braces and glasses are meant to make me a socially awkward fuck. You've got two options: wear the braces and have a dazzling smile after a year or two of looking a bit dorky or you can have dem crooked teeth for the rest of your life. If you've read The Game, "If you can't fix it, feature it." Nobody is going to not see your braces. They're pretty intrusive. So acknowledge it with a joke. If you keep trying to pretend they're not there and feeling shit about yourself, people are going to pick up on the body language and vibe that you're putting out and then they're gonna label you down as insecure and not sex worthy. I'm not pulling this out of my ass to make you feel better as well, I can say from experience that its true. And I still lost my V-Card to an 8 ;) so you can too! The thing is, you can make excuses forever for why you aren't at where you want with women. "I don't have money", "I don't have muscles", "I don't have >2% body fat". So stop being one of those guys and get out there and slay pussy!

Kidney05 · 2012-08-09T06:19:05+00:00

How old are you?

maddermonkey · 2012-08-09T07:10:03+00:00

I'm 21 and in college with braces.

No one believes I'm in college. That's how rough it can be.

LAC1987 · 2012-08-09T07:54:40+00:00

Well, think of how straight your teeth will be when you get them off. It's like an investment of sorts. Sure, your mouth may look a little goofy right now, but that's short term. Long term, it's going to wind up looking better than it did before you got them.

Also, when your braces are taken off and they tell you to wear a retainer for a bit, wear the fucking retainer. Trust me. Wear it as long as they tell you to. You may want that free feeling of not having anything unnatural in your mouth after having metal in there for so long, but the retainer is there to keep your teeth from going crooked or crooked-ish again. Just do it.

As for getting over it, accessorize. When they change the rubber bands on your braces, pick a color you like. Show it off. Match it with shirts or bracelets or something like that. If that isn't your thing, and you can't seem to turn a perceived weakness into a strength, go with clear rubber bands.

Another bit of advice: if you're a biter, please be careful. You're used to where your teeth are. You probably aren't used to where the metal is. It hurts a great deal, and not everyone is into that.

thedabbler · 2012-08-10T02:53:31+00:00

I got braces (silver train tracks) a year ago at 27. I was lucky that I only needed them for 6 months. I was initially very, very embarrassed. Let me make your day and tell you three great things about adult braces:

People will respond very positively. It shows that you care about bettering yourself and taking care of yourself. All the girls I talked to said they were impressed that I had the courage to do it at my age. It's a good thing man, you're spending your own money because you care about your appearance and yourself in general. Own that shit.
The confidence and pride you will feel when you get them off will be AMAZEBALLS. I never, ever smiled with my teeth and I'm still learning how to do it! I smile a lot more, especially during eye contact with girls and they get a big toothy come hither from this guy. It will be well worth it, just push through it.

---and here's the secret---

There is an ADULT BRACES MAFIA. I shit you not. Forget about how easy it is to pick up on another girl with braces - I found that adults with braces hook each other up with shit!! More than once I wanted to get something like a table at a restaurant or a piece of stock being held at a store and got a hook up from a fellow adult bracer. I only had my braces on my top teeth (which you can't see when I'm speaking normally) so I would ask 'surely there is something you can do for me' and then flash the braces and BAM. This might sound crazy but you'll see man, you'll see....

bonersack · 2012-08-09T07:33:13+00:00

I think braces are cute actually

andresau · 2012-08-09T07:14:59+00:00

Guy with braces here. I had the exact same problem when I first got my braces. Granted, I got my braces much later in life, however, I think my wisdom is applicable here. First, you need to realize that the majority of people out there have already had braces or want them. The mere fact that you have them suggests that self improvement is important to you. Believe it or not, I have met people who wear braces purely for aesthetics. In other words, they wear braces because they think they are cool, not to correct their jaw line or straighten their teeth. For me, the straighter my teeth became the more confidently I smiled at girls. It's also a great topic of conversation when approaching women with great smiles: "Wow, did you have braces when you were little?" etc. Good luck my friend.

AlmerKnight · 2012-08-09T12:19:28+00:00

In the long term, it'll benefit you greatly. I had braces and they helped give me my pearly white smile.

For now, just play it off if a person mentions it or keeps looking at it. Consider it a part of you, since it pretty much is. Say it's your grills or something. Point is: don't think of braces as a hinderance to your abilities to be confident.

throwsede4 · 2012-08-09T16:02:20+00:00

I had braces twice: At 15-17, the usual age, and 21-23, i.e., most of college. Both times they were pretty obvious, and this is what I learned:

They really, really, really don't matter. The only girl who ever made a big deal out of them was studying to be a dentist, and they ended up turning her on (which was a little creepy, to be honest).

Most people won't even notice them, especially if you don't have red-white-blue ties or something super obnoxious, but I think even if you did get a super obnoxious color pattern, it probably wouldn't hurt you. It's not what you wear, it's how you wear it, and that goes with braces, too.

MotaTuan · 2012-08-09T16:20:29+00:00

I had braces on when I was 16 and had em for 3 years. A hundred thoughts ran through my head: Will people make fun of me? How will I get a girlfriend looking like this? Eating delicious food? How can I make sure people don't see em?

At first I tried to hide them but that was near impossible unless I never opened my mouth to anyone. Sure people comment on them and ask when did you get them, but that all passes and eventually people just don't care or even notice them anymore. After a few weeks/month you barely even notice them yourself.

It really isn't feasible to go 2 years or so hiding away, so just own the braces and don't care. It'll be hard at first and you will be self-concious but in time you'll get used to them. If people just ask about em, answer whatever small talk questions and move on without it phasing you. Crack a few jokes about em. If you're at ease about them, not awkward, and self concious... people will pick up on this and in turn be fine with it. Remember that a lot of people have had braces before in their lives, so they can empathise.

Also, I hooked up with girls, had fun, and got my current girlfriend, all whilst having braces. It isn't a life ruiner as most people initially think.

Th3Truth4 · 2012-08-14T02:32:26+00:00

dont smile too much

Jewbot69 · 2012-08-09T07:55:39+00:00

It's only a problem if you make it a problem, women care 100x more about how you hold yourself rather than how you look

faithbc · 2012-08-09T07:06:47+00:00

I got my braces a month ago so I can relate. But they look fine on me.

Title	Just got braces, any advice on getting over them?
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Date	August 9, 2012 5:35 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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