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[–]Visualize_ 15 points16 points17 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your first priority needs to be self esteem. How are you going to attract others if you don't even like yourself.
[–]PotLimitOmaha 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You're already too invested in her. Start working out, eating better, and maybe pick up meditation. Just relax. You're in your 20s. You're supposed to say the wrong thing once and a while. The worst thing you could do is nothing because there will be a time when it's too late to chase girls. Focus on yourself, pick up some challenging hobbies, and don't compare yourself to other people. Life is yin and yang. Everyone has pros and cons about them. Don't compare yourself to other people it's a lose lose. Things are often simpler than you think don't go to many levels (of thought) deep and level yourself. It takes time. Evaluate any progress you've made based off action, not results. That was a bunch of advice strung together but it's what I tell myself and what helps me. Best of luck! PS. All the advice in the world won't help if you don't take action!
[–]oyoungpadawan 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the right advice!
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Ever tried not being ugly? /s
But seriously, when is the date?
[–]SniSlan 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
i just asked her out then i said you know what lets just get used to each other and then she answered, "yeah i would like to do it sometimes" she even made a joke about getting drunk with each other
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
So what's the problem? Go out with her.
[–]SniSlan 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
im a pussy ok? cuz im ugly and what do you mean buy have you ever tried not to be ugly ? i mean i have acne im pretty much disgusting, and thank you for the help btw i appreciate it
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Hey buddy, that was sarcasm.
If you met her online and she saw your picture, she knows what you look like. Just go out with her and don't think about it.
[–]SniSlan 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
i already mentioned she still didnt see me, it was a fake account with a meme as a profile pic
[–]SuperSilver89 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Okay for starters, never do that. All you're doing is displaying your insecurity if you don't have a picture - not to mention you're in this predicament every time you get a match.
Now, if you get messaged by anyone and you haven't even got a picture, I'd be very wary. How old has this girl said she is? How old are you, by the way? Spoke on the phone? Cam? If you're under 18 I would be very careful that this isn't some pedo or something.
If the girl is real, you've got nothing to lose except maybe a bit of pride - but you're a man, so act like one. These things shouldn't phase you - that's one of the many things that makes you attractive, more so than looks.
[–]SniSlan 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
i made a fake profile cuz i didnt have any serious intentions + she has pics + she told me she is insecure etc... and yes we both are 20 years old and we spoke through whatsapp
[–]SuperSilver89 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd suggest getting a fresh haircut, shave, good clothes, and you go on this date with her, take control, tell her where you'd like to take her and go there. Be very playful with her. Display confidence. You're both quite shy the sounds of it so you don't have to put on a lot of brovado.
You've got nothing to lose bro. I want to hear back on here about your results - good or bad - and we will continue to help you.
[–]SniSlan 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i already mentioned she still didnt see me, it was a fake account
[–]itaygolan88 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Its doesnt matter how you look and i am sure you are not ugly as you say you are... STOP say that you are ugly! If you will start believe that you amazing you will be amazing! And she will understant how amazing you are. Be yourself, if she accept to meet with you then she love the inner of you and thats whats important! I truly believe that you ar not ugly and if you meet with her she will love you! Just go on date with her man :)
[–]SniSlan 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
update : i decided to slow things down cuz i had been texting her all the time and i felt like she was bored, and in the next week i will upload a pic of me with a friend for the first time in my life and see her reaction
[–]hunterpua 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She hasn't seen a photo of you yet?
[–]SniSlan 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
not yet
[–]hunterpua 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just show up for the date. You never know until you try and women aren't as particular as men about looks. Also, it helps if you can actually respect yourself enough to understand that there is more to you than your looks.
I have a really good friend that used to suck ass with girls, he was absolutely terrible with them and he looked pretty ugly in the beginning but not once did he think that his looks caused his failures. He always thought of things like being awkward or not coming up with things to say or whatever but it never had anything to do with looks and I believe that's one of the things that caused him to break through his initial barriers and get pretty damn good with chicks.
[–]eringobragh320 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Came to here to say that you’re beautiful man! Beauty is subjective and there’s someone out there for everyone and dude she said yes to your date!
[–]judahman8 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Who cares about some girl you met online that you will probably never actually meet. You need to focus on learning game, going out and cold opening girls and working on yourself. If you work out and dress nice and take care of yourself then you should look average at worst. Stop saying you're ugly man.
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