Keeping the conversation going

Confident_Me · 2013-06-24T04:31:37+00:00

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maybenexttimecollege · 2013-06-24T05:20:39+00:00

I read on here a little while back something that I keep in the toolbox. Ask her the three most interesting things to know about her if you were never to see her again, these were the three things you could remember her by. On each thing just elaborate and go in depth and if it dies just tell her that's only one thing and go on to the next. Hopefully then she well ask you the same. Seems like a good way to not really interview but get her talking. Others have field tested with good results but I personally haven't yet because I haven't hit a block on conversion since I found it.

recyclablebantha · 2013-06-24T08:06:31+00:00

You don't need her to necessarily ask questions of you..... not at first anyway. Just try to talk to girls the same casual way you'd talk to your guy friends. Pay attention to the situation/the moment and her, and you'll have all the material you need.

In the off chance you hit a lull, there's nothing wrong living through the pause and just changing the subject to whatever comes to mind.

Don't worry about what percentage of questions you have. The important thing is that you're interacting. You can ask questions, make a comment or make a comment followed immediately by a question, based on what strikes you about something she JUST said. Which means you have to be listening. If you're in your head worrying about checklists, IOIs, or what you're going to say next, etc., while she is talking, you're going to have a bad time because you'll be missing information/feedback you could be using (a) as material for your end of the conversation and (b) to lead the conversation somewhere that resonates for the both of you.

What you don't want to be doing is going down a mental list of questions, one by one, while failing to react to the answers you get. That makes it feel like an interview.

(Example of what NOT to do: Guy: Where are you from? Girl: Texas. Guy: Texas? Nice. What do you do? Note: In this example, the guy is missing the opportunity to ask all sorts of questions or make comments about the new place she lives or about Texas. It's this detached way of talking that comes off poorly.)

(Example of a better way: Guy: Where are you from? Girl: Texas. Guy: Texas? Nice. What brought you here from Texas? Note: Any small topic has the potential to be plumbed to find out about her motivations and emotions.)

diealog · 2013-06-24T05:55:20+00:00

This goes into just being overall interesting as a person with whatever the sex. If you're asking her a bunch of questions then you must be learning stuff about her, right? So show her you're paying attention and that you're interested by commenting on whatever conclusions you can make from what she's saying. The best way to get her to open up is by making her feel comfortable about herself around you to the point where she's talking naturally and actually wants to leave a good impression on you. The more details she gives and the more dots you connect, the more likely she's going to want to start filling in those gray areas.

If you show a genuine interest then she's going to want to feed that interest, unless you're bugging her which you haven't exactly ruled out but in that case you might want to ease off a bit.

scumbag4life · 2013-06-24T09:14:00+00:00

I don't want to pimp anyone's product too much, but I've found that Kezia Noble's 10 Hook Lead System provides excellent depth into the art of conversation in relation to seduction. Since she's a woman she can offer a valuable perspective on what it's like as a hot woman getting hit on by guys who are naturally good at pulling.

Using high value questions, using little challenges (ex. "tell me what the 3 best things are about x") offer you opportunities to both grab control of the frame of the convo and also give you at least 3 topics that you can follow after she answers. This prevents remaining on the same topic for too long and leading to awkward silence. She offers 10 valuable tips on conversation skills that I've found to be helpful.

BlueRookie · 2013-06-24T03:45:08+00:00

what's the setting?

joshsmith5 · 2013-06-24T04:27:45+00:00

Get her talking about a subject she's passionate about so the questions your asking further encourage her to continue talking. It will be easy for her to continue to talk and easy for you to ask further questions if your curious. Obviously applies vice verse genders.

I think if the girl is interested she will continue to show interest in you by leading the conversation by asking questions about you. That is how i would interpret from my own recent experience. I think im right because I did get her number.

IntensePancakes · 2013-06-24T20:04:14+00:00

The conversation should be just as much about you as it is about her. Asking her questions is a good way to get things started, but you have to get her interested in YOU. If you haven't said anything about yourself that piqued their interest, why would they want to know more? The way to keep a conversation going is not to just keep asking questions, but to discuss something where both of you are interested in what the other person has to say.

fuckthisindustry · 2013-06-24T04:42:52+00:00

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ihaveabu · 2013-06-24T14:43:45+00:00

Don't ask questions. Make statements.

Instead of asking a girl where she works, say "you seem pretty___, you must work as a__.

Lightly tease her and she'll respond better than getting interviewed.

Also, and most importantly, you're making statements and not asking questions. Low value men ask questions. High value men make statements and laugh about it when they're wrong (or in this case, tease the girl because your assumption is purposely silly)

Start doing this in your conversations and you'll notice a huge difference.

theartofoppa · 2013-06-24T04:12:31+00:00

Do you have the same problem with guy friends? Usually we don't (I say "we" because I'm in the same situation), but it's hard to just transfer all of that ease when talking to an old guy friend to when you're talking to a new hot girl you just met at a club. I can't even figure out what I'm doing different myself.

khanline · 2013-06-24T14:14:52+00:00

I used to have that "now what do i say". Now if i notice it's about to happen i just start talking about something sexual, it just fires right back up, and also takes everything to the next level. Try it.

also, become more interesting as a person in general.

2013-06-24T15:58:00+00:00

Some woman talk to guys in attempt to pass time and only talk to a guy when feel convenient.

Give you example. Woman watching her favorite tv show only response to you during the commercial breaks because she bored and need a distraction to fill a empty part of time. Eventually she admit this in the underline context of what she doing and pattern worsen to the point your frustrated then leave her

skcin7 · 2013-06-25T08:11:45+00:00

Use the FORD technique (Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Dreams) to start. Then use something that Kezia Noble taught me in a YouTube video.

Ask increasingly more personal questions that are related to whatever they said at first. So if they say "I love to travel", you can say "those who love to travel have typically seen a lot of cultures, what are some things you learned from cultures other than your own".
Gain leverage to find out more personal details and build rapport.
Listen to whatever this person, your new friend, is saying.
Make good use of eye contact.
Don't waste your time if you aren't sincerely interested.

Next thing you know instead of surface conversations you're talking about things that are more personal to each of you, you're good friends, and know a lot about each others intimate personal details that you don't just share with anybody.

nawlir · 2013-06-26T06:34:06+00:00

There is a technique called threading, im sure if you put it in the search bar you will find sources.

mph1204 · 2013-06-24T16:27:14+00:00

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Title	Keeping the conversation going
Author	RunningWithTheNight
Upvotes	100
Comments	29
Date	June 24, 2013 3:34 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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