Looping right around to the point where I started from

july25 · 2013-01-14T05:12:46+00:00

Game is learned in cycles. You're going to have periods where you're going to start identifying with good results that you've gotten and develop an ego around your abilities, which is going to make you outcome dependent in the field until you realize what you're doing and snap out of it and just go out to have fun. Other times you'll have other shit in your life interfering with your mood and you'll suck because of that. The important part is to keep going out and not judge your progress. Look at your improvement over a longer period of time and see how far you've come. Getting good at game takes time and the only way to do it is by taking massive action and going out. Don't expect some magic poll that'll improve you overnight, that's not possible, especially if you're coming from a place of emotional deficit like most people in this subreddit. Trust in the process, you'll get good if you keep going out, it's impossible that you won't, you just have to persist.

Ben_KickassAcademy · 2013-01-14T05:55:46+00:00

Hey man, my number 1 piece of advice would be don't beat yourself up about any of it. Getting good at game takes time and effort. Everyone gets rejected, anyone claiming they have a 100% success rate is a liar and probably selling snake-oil. The trick is not letting it bother you. The best thing you can do is practice. After thousands of interactions, the victories and the defeats both feel less important [although being able to pull hot girls still feels pretty awesome every time :-) ]

Also, seduction (and most things) is a skill that is learned in a series of big jumps and plateaus. So many times I've hit on a huge breakthrough and had massive quick improvement, then plateau there for a bit, then hit another breakthrough, then plateau there for a bit. The thing is, even at the plateaus you are getting better and getting closer to the next big breakthrough, even if you don't realize it until you get there. Even when it doesn't feel like it, putting time into self-improvement always leads to improvement (assuming that time is being used wisely).

See if you can find another friend to learn with you. You can't force it on people, and some people will always view learning pick up as "weird", but having a buddy to learn with makes the journey way more fun, gives you someone to break down interactions with, and celebrate your successes and failures with. One of the biggest factors in my improvement early on was having a good friend on the journey with me.

Also, developing a cool / sexy identity helps. Find something you love, whether it's working out, sky diving, MMA, guitar. I love MMA. Not only does it give me something cool to talk to girls about, but more importantly it gives me something else in my life that's important to me, so that girls aren't the only important thing in my life. That will make the rejections hurt less because you've got this other part of your life you enjoy and take pride in.

Play on playa! Consistent effort + positive attitude = killer results :)

puaCurveBall · 2013-01-14T16:47:56+00:00

I'm good at making convo with the guys because I can always relate to them, into sports, smarts, and so on

What is so different about girls? you can't talk to girls about sports or "smarts"?

Find things that are universally relatable

Title	Looping right around to the point where I started from
Author	MrNutty
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	January 14, 2013 4:09 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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