Lost and have no idea how to start

Jameck · 2018-06-15T07:08:55+00:00

You may start with The Natural by RSDMax or Julien's Pimp. Don't, jump from one program to another, choose one and use it. If you problem is AA then use Fearless by RSDMax or Winnergame by Todd (it has missions to destroy AA).

sporker8791 · 2018-06-15T08:10:24+00:00

Was just going to recommend Winner Game by Todd - it's built for getting over AA and is probably the best freebie program I have seen.

headdstrongg · 2018-06-15T13:32:06+00:00

The other suggestions are probably pretty good, I'm not familiar so some of the programs/books. But, since you mentioned you're pretty funny, I'd suggest you learn how to wink really well (but make it fun/funny). I do this sometimes just for shit and giggles and alot of girls get a real kick out of it and you don't even have to say anything. No you probably won't get laid from it, but once you see a few smiles/positive reactions from girls it might get you over your hump.

frepie3 · 2018-06-15T13:05:14+00:00

Firstly, everybody in the world has anxiety about doing something they are unfamiliar with. Do your best to accept your anxiety, know its there, but don't let it hold you back (basic buddhism/mediation can help here). Learning from others and doing some research on the basics is a good idea, but I would advise against getting into the mindset of "the more I read/watch, the better I will become". It is a vicious cycle (I used to be guilty of this).

It gets to the point where you have to bite the bullet and give it a go. Sometimes it will go well, and other times it wont - accept this as well. Where it doesn't go well, you bow out gracefully like a gent, and move on. Perhaps the next time it will go better.

Practically, start small. Get chatting to the girl in the gym, if it feels like it is going well, go for a number, or ask her for a coffee. If the vibes are not good, move on. By chatting to her, you've made a start, and your task for the day is done! One small thing a day. Thats how I started at college.

All the best.

CollaterLDamage · 2018-06-15T14:08:42+00:00

There were 3 things i worked on before i started gaming.

My voice. I went to a park and practiced talking loud and clear. This would be easier if you have freinds and just ask them to tell you how loud and clear it sounds. Most people talk low( i did) or talk fast.
Talk with anyone. If you cant start a car, it doesnt matter where you were going, much the same, if you can't start a conversation, it doesn't matter where you want to lead it. I would look in the news and choose 3 topics. Then when i went out, id walk along side someone. I'd say " hey, hows it going". If they responded positively, id choose a topic and talk.( i had one guy lock up and one older lady who was actually having a hard time and thanked me for letting her talk, those were the only special cases in the early days)

I didn't start with pretty women, or women at all for that matter. I started at home on family, then men and old women, then women i found attractive. When i was at least comfortable enough to talk to mildly attractive women, id say something like " i like your style, do you lnow if that place also sells mens clothes?" If they ask, id be honest. I didn't really like the way i looked so im changing my style. ( i remember one girl saying she think i looked cute and alll my anxiety came flooding back and i had to walk away, its hilarious to think back on it now).

Op make a log book, write it in your phone, a journal, somewhere. Make it a goal to talk to strangers. Even if all you do is say Hi.

Always push that uncomfortable feeling. Think like a push up, if you cant do 1, you do knee push up, if you cant do 1, you do incline push ups but no matter what, you never let the workout be comfortable, its always a little strain.

Say hi to 5 people turns to hi to 5 women turns to hi to 5 attractive women, then you move on to small talk.

We men like to say we are creatures of logic, yet we put so many illogical restraints on ourselves.

Xen0ph · 2018-06-15T15:06:58+00:00

Hey, I went through something similar when I started and I had the worst approach anxiety on planet earth. Just some things to consider:

Approach Anxiety will never truly go away.
You can however manage it.

What you want to do is start really small and work your way up. Baby-step the process. Remember if you only get 1% better every now and then, you're still overall getting better. Over time as you approach the anxiety will get more manageable. Given this, here's some exercises you can do to reduce it or get warmed up:

Approach random people, give them a really heartfelt compliment about something they're wearing, then eject. For this one you don't even have to stop them, do a drive-by.

ALTERNATIVELY:

Approach random people, wish them a good day and then wish them goodbye.

You can use the line "Excuse me, I know this is kinda weird, but I just wanted to say <Compliment/Have a good day>. See you later".

You get some people saying you really made their day doing this! I get at least 2 - 3 massive "Thank you!"s when I warm up like this.

Hope this helps. :)

judahman8 · 2018-06-15T19:05:52+00:00

There's a million techniques that help with AA but a lot of it stems from not understanding what to do or say. This is where outter game helps the most. If you don't have a good idea of how an interaction is suppose to play out from beginning to end and what you need to do for it to play out like that then you are going to feel a lot more AA. Imagine going up to give a speach but you don't even know the topic you are suppose to give a speech on, you didn't practice giving speaches and you have to wing it on top of that. You are going to be so nervous that even if you have the balls to get up there you most definitely bomb and you are nervous because you know that lol.

Even if I have to give a speech where I don't get to use notes and I have to just freely talk about what I know, I had to throughly learn the topic at hand, practice what points I want to hit before hand and have it organized in my head as to what I'm trying to do with this speach. In other words you need to learn some game so you are confident in what you are doing.

Title	Lost and have no idea how to start
Author	Unchart3disOP
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Date	June 15, 2018 6:27 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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