Seduction is a game, it's a lot like tag. Someone has to chase and someone has to be chased. You can't have a game where both people chase eachother and both people want to be caught because that would just be boring.

You don't want to be the one chasing because that makes her the one trying not to be caught. It's not a good dynamic because she looses when she gets caught and you might never actually catch her. It's basically a loose loose situation. Instead you should get her to chase you because you want to be in control of when someone gets caught. As long as you don't make being caught too easy, the game will be enjoyable for both of you and she will feel like she won by catching you. Everyone wins.

So how do you get her to chase you? That's the difficult part and the very core of seduction. Don't chase her for starters, but you still have to make the first move. Think about it like playing with a cat. Chase a cat and it will scratch you or run. To get it to play you have to dangle something just out of their reach. When they try to get it you pull it away only to dangle in front of them again.

Examples of this would be push pull. Push pull isn't just for conversation, it's something that shoul be kept in mind for all interactions with the girl you are trying to seduce. Do you feel like asking a girl out on a date? Ok but that's the pull but where's the push? You are now the one chasing her and you have put yourself in an unfavorable position.

This is one reason why I avoid asking girls on formal dates. Not to say they can't work out, it's just not optimal. Instead I would say something like "I was meeting a friend downtown for some drinks but he bailed on me, come keep me company". This will accomplish the same thing as a date but it will frame her as the chaser and me as the one she is chasing.

I'm going downtown to have drinks anyways and I'm dangling the string by inviting her along. She is the one reaching for the string by coming. The push is that she was my second option and I don't really care if she comes, but I'm inviting her anyways.

Now you might be thinking "I despise all these games" and I feel you. I'm sure there are animals out there that might hate their particular mating dance. But it doesn't matter what you like. If you try to seduce someone then you are participating whether you are aware of it or not, might as well get good at it.