What’s going on guys. Want to share a quick story from earlier in this year, my first year in game.

By this point of the year I had gotten over approach anxiety, but I was still very much a beginner. In this phase especially, it takes consistent MASSIVE ACTION to get anywhere.

The point of this is just to show you that if you set your mind to something, you can make it happen.

I had just gone on a family trip with the parents and siblings for 2 days and 1 night and got back home on a Sunday night. I hadn’t approached any girls for a few days. I got back to my apartment that night and just told myself I was going to go hard on game in the upcoming week and as long as necessary until something great happened.

I knew I was going to make an effort every day to make something happen until something happened. Keep in mind, every day I was meditating and doing positive affirmations each morning. It's the combination of doing this and taking action that creates synergy to get you somewhere.

Day 1 – Stopped at a mall after work just to approach. Saw a couple girls at a table. Approached and ended up getting one of the girl’s #. Later stopped at the grocery store, got another girl’s #.

Day 2 – Stopped at a different mall after work just to approach. Approached a group that had 2 girls and a guy, didn’t go too well but it was a good experience. Also approached a girl working at one of the stores on her break and got her #.

Day 3 – Walked to a shopping center near my apartment after work just to approach. Once I started talking to the girl realized she was kind of crazy and didn’t even want her #.

Day 4 – Stopped at another one of the malls from earlier in the week just to approach. Group of girls. Used the “Familiarity” opener that Evolution Daily talks about on one girl in the group, and ended up getting the Snapchat of another girl in the group.

Day 5 – Did a little bit of night game at a bar/club. Approached probably a handful of girls. Had a couple good interactions. Didn’t end up pulling that night, but got some good reference experiences.

Day 6 – Went on a 2nd date with a girl that I met through cold approach a couple weeks prior. Wasn’t really smooth with escalating. Nothing really went down. Ended up not trying to set up a 3rd date.

Day 7 – Was walking past an outdoor restaurant and saw 2 girls having a drink. Approached with direct opener one 1 of them. Ended up sitting with them for 15 minutes and got her #.

Day 8 – Stopped in a department store after work. Just to approach! Had 2 approaches. Both had boyfriends. Both responded positively to me though and it kept building good momentum for me.

Day 9 – Stopped in a grocery store after work. Just to approach! Had 1 approach. Went well, got a phone #.

Day 10 – Stopped at a shopping center just to approach. Two different groups of 3. Went direct on both the girls in each of their groups. Got both their Snapchats.

Day 11 – Went to a busy local bar for night game. I’m with a couple friends and we see this girl. There’s all these guys in the bar just staring at her ass (it’s AMAZING) but nobody approaches or does anything (because they haven't been approaching the last 10 days like a BEAST). My friend says, “I dare you to approach that girl”. So of course, because I had been building so much momentum and calibration off of these past 10 days that approach was so easy. Smooth 3 minute interaction, had to get the girls # because her friend was dragging her away. I did seed the idea that we could hangout later. Saw her later on in the club with 2 guys talking to her and her friend. She looked really uncomfortable so I rolled up and said “Hey guys, this is my girlfriend”. It was easy for me to do this because I had been handling so much social pressure the last 10 days doing all these day game group approaches. She ended up being really happy I did this and long story short, we went home together and it was an amazing night.

Notice how nothing really all that amazing happened the first 10 days. Yeah I got some phone #s. Some texted me back, some didn’t. Didn’t end up meeting up with any of those girls. A lot of you guys would have been like “Screw this, this doesn’t work”. But for me, I viewed each interaction as a building block. A reference experience. I learned something from each of those 10 days that I couldn’t have learned if I wasn’t approaching.

Nothing on those first 10 days was too time consuming. I just made sure I put a little time aside each day to make an effort for myself. A lot of you aren’t doing this. Especially if you’re in the early stages of game, you have to go out of your way, set time aside, just to pick up girls, everyday. Once you get more advanced, it’s easier to get approaches in as you just go about your day to day life and you wont have to schedule time for this as much. You have to do at least one approach per day especially in your early stages. Group sets are the best because it really forces you get socially fine tuned. I told myself that as I accumulated this momentum and experience and kept a strong attitude, something great would happen.

Moral of the story - set your mind to it. Take action every day. Set aside time just to focus on picking up girls. And actually approach. If you need help with actually being able to approach, go check out my blog. Direct or indirect opener it doesn’t matter. Go for the # close. Once you get more advanced you can try to pull from daygame too. You’ll get out of this what you put into it. Keep everything in perspective, enjoy the journey and always try to make something happen. Get the #, text for the date, invite her back to your place, etc. and don’t worry about the outcome as long as you’re consistently approaching and trying to make something happen with those approaches.

Did I always want to stop at a mall or store on the way home? No, not really. But I knew I wanted to change my life. It's the discipline to value your long term outcomes over your short term feelings.

I hope this inspires you to do your own 10 day challenge. If you do something like this, come back to this post and comment to let me know how it goes.

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