You’re on Seddit hoping to find the secrets to get better with women. The honest truth is, your pathway to getting better with women is how you behave in your day to day life. It’s not about reading a bunch of pick up theory that gets you so confused, it inhibits you from taking action. It’s not about creating the perfect outline of Mark Manson’s book “Models” and reciting it in your head.

You have to start focusing on living these two affirmations: “I’m always social” and “I’m always on”

“I’m always social”: A lot of getting better with women is simply improving your social skills. If you’re truly congruent with “I’m always social”, you’re always making the people in your environment wherever you are in that moment feel good. You’re chatting up people in the elevator. You’re complimenting the cashier. You’re having a friendly chit chat with the old lady walking her poodle. Each moment of your life that you’re around people, you’re being that alpha who makes them feel good.

“I’m always on”: You realize that your best interactions with girls you want could happen at any time. You don’t think “Oh, I only try to pick up girls on the beach or in the club”. Because you’re in that habit of making all people feel good by living “I’m always social” and you’re always starting conversations, it becomes so easy to roll up on that girl sitting by herself in the pizza shop. You make people feel good all the time, it’s easy for you to roll up and brighten her day and increase her attraction for you.

Your future with women is far better served by going outside and brightening the day of the next stranger you see than it is reading one more Reddit post.

What is a man supposed to do in this world? Give, provide, etc. Start by being a provider of positive emotions. You know you’re growing as a man when you can generate positive emotions inside yourself in any situation and share those with the people around you.

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