Messed up my first months at Uni.

colucci · 2013-10-13T05:31:13+00:00

I haven't seen your last thread, but ...

And I got a lot of great advice, and I really appreciate it, and I followed it, and ended up in the wrong crowd. My circle of friends consists of the uber religious, prude, bible thumper types

How did advice on this subreddit get you conservative friends?

likethemonkey · 2013-10-13T11:58:21+00:00

Well, it's hard to do that half way through the semester. I still strike up a lot of conversations with a lot of people, but everyone tends to be very guarded about their vices and that makes it a little hard to find out who I have stuff in common with, not to mention most people have already formed their cliques.

At no point in life do people determine, "I think we all know enough cool people. Let's close this group off for a while." Cliques are not frats or sororities - there is no defined signup date.

Now that it's halfway through the semester, I'm sure there are people you have seen around in your average routine. I'm sure some of them have seen you. Nod at them and smile. Say hi sometimes. Start a conversation, "Hey, we bump into each other every week and..."

The uber religious bible thumpers are on most campuses and they tend to be the most receptive and friendly of all groups. It's in the DNA of the group - recruit.

Booze, smoking, and sex? Get a part time job in a restaurant. That's the crowd you're looking for. Meet some people, get the hell out - but keep going there to stay friends with everyone.

ArthurAardvark · 2013-10-13T06:29:07+00:00

How the heck do you do that?

You are trying too hard to commit to the philosophies here. I imagine you were fronting on some friendly bullocks with no real flavor or content to your conversations. So of course the most bland, friendly people will latch on. Be yourself, damn it. Just let it happen. To elaborate on "it," I mean friendships. Just be yourself and you will click with some people and eventually call them your friends. Don't force friendships or any relationships for that matter.

Just be genuinely friendly and outgoing with everyone you meet so you can get to know them eventually. Push a bit to hang out if you can (and if you like them). Like if it is the end of the week, ask them what cool things they are doing once they are done with classes for the week. Then you can say something along the lines of, in a much more eloquent way "Ah man that is awesome, we should do that thing together next weekend/sometime."

yo_dat_ass · 2013-10-13T19:00:25+00:00

So you made friends, which is good, but not the right ones, which is still okay. It sounds like you're a freshman, and probably at a smaller christian liberal arts college in the midwest. (just assuming, thats been my experience with what you described.)

Anyways, it may seem lame, but get involved with as many on campus groups as you can - just meet people. If you're lucky, your college will have a club or organization that fits your interests. If nothing else, just join something that you can stomach for a semester or two. You will end up meeting some new people that you can hang out with and drink with. I promise. Also, not being 21 isnt an excuse, especially on college campuses. There are plenty of other people who are the same age that go out to house parties. If you live in a dorm with freshmen, go find a handle of vodka and walk around the hallways on a friday night. You'll make plenty of friends. Just be open.

Mshotts · 2013-10-14T17:28:00+00:00

I know I'm a bit late, but reading this reminded me of myself last year.

I'm from out of state. Came to a school with 55,000+ people and didn't know a single person. Literally nobody.

It was rough at first but here's what I did.

Be way more open and friendly. Talk to people, they don't bite.

Look into joining a club or two that interests you. Just start going to their meetings and events. It's a great way to meet new friends considering you all have at least one thing in common.

I also joined a social fraternity. Going greek certainly isn't for everyone but in my case it couldn't have worked out better. It's too late now, but starting next semester there will be spring rush. Just go to the different chapters and see what they're all about. You may find a place that's a great match or you might not, but you won't know until you try.

dbaker102194 · 2013-10-13T10:43:54+00:00

Befriend everyone in your classes. Just talk to people and you'll find some that are up your alley. Go to parties at your college bars.

juggz42 · 2013-10-13T06:24:47+00:00

Talk to the different people you work with in tutorials. You'll probably both think "yeah, he's a pretty cool guy" and then next thing you know you're sharing a brew at the uni pub.

HappyJerk · 2013-10-13T18:45:29+00:00

I still strike up a lot of conversations with a lot of people, but everyone tends to be very guarded about their vices and that makes it a little hard to find out who I have stuff in common with, not to mention most people have already formed their cliques.

The fact is, not a lot of people want to admit that they're into seduction and/or pick up. Society teaches us that its "wrong" or "manipulative" for men to try to figure out how to seduce women. I have friends that go out every night and try to get laid (and usually end up playing video games complaining about how girls are snobby) but if I bring up PUA/seduction that look at me like a creep or a weirdo.

Your best bet is to just find people that like to party and not worry about finding a "wingman" or fellow seduction-type people. It's actually sometimes better to party with AFCs because the girls will naturally be attracted to you.

stan3186 · 2013-10-28T15:03:47+00:00

Ii hear ya, sometimes it hard to make new connections. You can expand on the ones that you have. For instance, all of your religious friends also have non religious friends that you can associate with. Expand your "sphere of influence" by meeting other people outside your group. I would like to point something out though. My first real girlfriend I met in a church group on a retreat where there was co-ed groups. The first sexual experience I had was with a beautiful girl from this church group and we dated for a while. Just because someone appears to be over the top religious, does not necessarily mean they are off limits. They have physical needs and desires just like anyone else. Maybe they are like you and joined in the religious group because they couldn't hookup with others, just like you. Learn how to attract women in general by using some attraction techniques. You can get some free advise by going to this website and maybe see some stuff that would work for you,. ConquerThem dot com

Title	Messed up my first months at Uni.
Author	dbaker102194
Upvotes	33
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Date	October 13, 2013 5:05 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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