Microaggressions and Pickup

IHaveScrollLockOn · 2012-07-31T08:14:11+00:00

Potential new male friend teasing you: "I bet you're a player."

You: "Get the fuck out of here, now."

That's a very aggressive response to a fellow man's comment. The author goes on to say he wants to make the other guy go through "feelings of rejection coupled with fear".

Guys, don't be like this. I would never wish feelings of rejection or fear upon another person. Even if he's interested in the same woman I am.

Come up with a more joking/sarcastic and less sociopathic/violent response. Say something like, "Yeah totally. Ever since I won those gold medals, I can't keep the girls off of me." Make the guy and girl laugh, instead of starting a fight, dude.

This subreddit is all about being helpful and constructive to each other. So let's do that, shall we?

FearlessPotato · 2012-07-31T10:11:17+00:00

Here are a few responses to "I'll bet you're a player" off the top of my head.

"Perhaps I am a bit, but really I'm just searching for the right woman." This shows you are able to recognise your own flaws, shows you to have a more mature attitude than the other guy, shows you are in control of your temper as well as giving the woman a challenge.

"Sorry but I don't gamble, are you a big gambler?" This totally sidelines his accusations and puts the pressure on him to explain his own bad habits.

"What makes you think that? It's not true but I get it a lot, do you think it is due to some kind of cultural differences?" Shows you to be honest, open and intelligent while making the other guy out to be unsophisticated about other cultures.

All of these responses disarm the accusation and make you look better than him without any unattractive thuggish behaviour.

bluehat9 · 2012-07-31T16:11:46+00:00

Not sure how accusing you of being a player is racist...

That said, every time I've been accused of being a player it's because the girl is interested. Girls are attracted to high quality guys, who of course attract many girls, so its only natural you would be "a player" if you have skills with attracting women. When I say, "You like it" or "ya, why do you like it so much?" they eat it the fuck up. If I got all reactive and angry, or defensive, that would be a fail.

Cultural differences I guess may be the reason for this difference. I guess your blog is just targeted to a very specific audience of expat players.

FearlessPotato · 2012-07-31T10:00:38+00:00

So you have made it your mission to change the behaviour of an entire culture by threatening them one person at a time?

Oooookaaayy....

rednukleus · 2012-07-31T10:17:54+00:00

I don't like this guy.

mariodood · 2012-07-31T17:33:40+00:00

Hey TokyoPickup, what's the deal--do you speak Japanese or what? Are the lessons only for Japanese speakers? My impression was that Japanese ppl learn english in school but that their english usually sucks balls.

ninomojo · 2012-07-31T15:03:02+00:00

I'm sorry, but to all the people hating on me for standing my ground against racism all I can say is you've had a silver spoon in your mouth your entire life.

It's OK though, when I was a 22 year old guy, living as a white dude in America I probably would have thought the same thing. But what's the other option when confronted with racism? You guys are thinking of it in terms of your own pickup environment, where even the chicks would be like "wtf is this guy talking about?" when someone pops this out their mouth. In America I would laugh it off if someone said this to me, but nobody would say this because I'd be a part of the majority again. In Japan (and most foreign countries) things are different, the cards are stacked against you. People aren't saying this to me jokingly, they say this out of aggression, and many of them believe it to be true. While in my case it might be true, in many cases it isn't, and it is nothing more than a representation of their racist beliefs.

So yeah, I do think it is OK to stand up and fight against outright racist remarks, directed at me or anyone. I've come to understand why african americans get so damned pissed of when people say stupid shit to them as well. A long time ago I didnt get, but now I do.

Title	Microaggressions and Pickup
Author	TokyoPickup
Upvotes	6
Comments	22
Date	July 31, 2012 5:41 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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