My Biggest Mental Block for Talking to/Approaching Women

maestroni · 2013-04-06T12:15:55+00:00

this thought process almost ALWAYS shuts my game down and I can't seem to justify it.

You are afraid of rejection, which is why you are afraid to make a move. I'd suggest you go out sometimes with the sole purpose of getting rejected. Use the worst pick-up lines, go for the kiss after 1 minute of talking, instantly invite them to your place, whatever.

You've only seen the Korean guy's success and you think that his actions are well received 100% of the time. In reality he gets rejected pretty much regularly. The only difference between you and him is that he doesn't care.

daddysuggs · 2013-04-06T07:59:14+00:00

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birdwontquit · 2013-04-06T18:18:27+00:00

I can't get over the fact that if someone were to approach a girl, and start flirting with them hard, they would be content and play along with it KNOWING that the only intention he has is to seduce them and get them in bed.

What's wrong with that? Women like sex too.

MustNotFfff · 2013-04-06T19:27:42+00:00

You are overthinking it many times. If you're at a house party, the defenses of everyone are already lowered. You can pick up girls by just walking up to them and chatting them up. People are just bored, they're waiting for you to come up and do something interesting. You can incorporate elements of the game to make the interaction go somewhere, but you don't need to overthink it as much at a house party.

KilgoreTrouserTrout · 2013-04-07T17:51:38+00:00

Korean dude had a confident, sexual frame. The girls were into it. You've been conditioned to not be sexual right away because it's "rude." Korean dude embraces his sexuality and acts sexual. I bet he acts this way to lots of women, and a lot of them are turned off right away. These girls happened to be into it on this occassion. He keeps doing his thing because he knows it will work for him a certain percentage of the time.

I can't get over the fact that if someone were to approach a girl, and start flirting with them hard, they would be content and play along with it KNOWING that the only intention he has is to seduce them and get them in bed.

Why can't you get over this? Women are also sexual beings. Sometimes they want flat-out sexuality. Sometimes it's that "easy." But you have to try and strike out a number of times before this "easy" time. Babe Ruth was known for his record number of home runs. He also had a record number of strike outs. We don't remember him for that.

Go out and start swinging that bat, my friend.

Title	My Biggest Mental Block for Talking to/Approaching Women
Author	daddysuggs
Upvotes	18
Comments	13
Date	April 6, 2013 6:38 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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