My first daytime cold approach

projectm35 · 2014-09-02T17:20:37+00:00

First off, you did it. So no, it didn't go poorly. Going poorly is not even going up to her. So congrats.

Second, slow it down a bit. You can't just run up and say "let's go on a date". There are tons of great infield videos on YouTube about cold approaching. See Justin Wayne, Good Looking Loser, Simple Pickup etc.

rangamatchstick · 2014-09-02T17:30:39+00:00

Congrats one your first approach dude! Seriously you actualy did it, youev gotten over initial AA so next time will be easier, so dont worry about the stuff ups, my first day game approach I blurted out what I was saying so fast I basicly grunted at them, tried to repeat myself, grunted again and went incredibly red in the face from embarrassment then walked off. That day I managed to get a couple of numbers though after I worked up the courage again, but it took much less time and felt alot more natural the second time.

In terms of what you did wrong was 1. You went straight from "Hi" to "lets go out", just missed a few steps hahaha. When you first start you have to slow down alot, it seems un natural but you can then think about what you are doing and practice things like reading her body language, picking up on shit tests, eye contact, your body language ect. This is just initial and you will get some numbers just doing this but its mainly practise to get the start down so you can progress and become more natural, but with these traits.

Other than approach more, set a goal for number of approaches (keep it low and realistic though, around 3 for me is fine) when you have a chance to do game, make sure you always do the eye contact game, it becomes better over time but the first couple of times are rough. Keep it up and good luck.

SamGill · 2014-09-02T23:53:37+00:00

excellent. my advice: repeat this about 2-6000 times and you'll be a grandmaster

TheMusicalNihilist · 2014-09-02T20:14:05+00:00

Being less outcome dependent will help tremendously. Also reframe your mind.

You aren't getting rejected, they just don't have what you want. Plain and simple.Sasha talks abut this at a 21 summit. I am on my mobile; so I can't post the video, but it is on YouTube and has a lot of hits; so it should be easy to find.

Besides, the more attractive they are, the easier they are to approach. 97℅ of guys see how attractive she is, and they can't summon the courage either. Just look at those odds! Nicer girls tend to be happier, as life is easier - so fewer of them are actually bitchy. Whereas with less attractive(read: more insecure) women tend to be cunts from the get - go because they think you just want something.

They aren't too far from the truth, but their insecurities from their younger years are hanging them up. Any intelligent woman can tell that the odds of getting something in return are exponentially high. It is the truth for many males as well.

emonybz · 2014-09-03T03:20:16+00:00

Try to make a connection to build attraction. When asking her questions ask "why", to show interest but not too much. Don't go into interview mode. Say things about yourself as well. Keep interactions to at least 5 minutes if you can. Also don't waste your time. Her body language will tell if she's interested. You said before she did glance at you a couple times, so she was somewhat interested.

apackofwankers · 2014-09-03T04:26:44+00:00

Jumping straight into "would you like coffee" is probably wrong. "go for a walk" is less commitment, but you need to lead in with something else.

Observe her for a while. Find something you like about her, other than her looks. Maybe its the way she twirls her hair, maybe its how she kicks her feet under the table, maybe something especially cute about her fashion. Find something.

Or, observe her and make up and story about her. Sorry but I was looking at you and had this waking dream that you were just back from serving as a Nurse in Afghanistan - am I close?. Be careful about these; stick to relatively mundane waking dreams.

Then go up and say something like "Hi, I really like X about you; I am completely fascinated by it. My name is Y, whats your name?". Seeing something other than her looks is good. Being honest and direct is good. Introductions are good. Then go from there.

You might still get blown off, but you have laid out more hooks.t

Never ask if she has a boyfriend, you are just giving her the opportunity to say "yes". She is perfectly capable of lying to you on her own; she doesn't need your help.

If you are blown off, be graceful about it. Maybe shes having a bad day. Leave the door open for the next encounter.

tramplemestilsken · 2014-09-02T22:21:22+00:00

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salexius · 2014-09-03T05:16:18+00:00

Congratulations man! Keep up the good work!

Aalewis__ · 2014-09-03T08:20:10+00:00

You forgot to tip your fedora.

Title	My first daytime cold approach
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Date	September 2, 2014 4:49 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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